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The start of a new and improved me...

Postby frangipani » Thu Jun 25, 2009 10:59 pm

Hi everyone, I am here because I have been overweight ALL of my 46 years! Enough is enough. I am going to be as honest as I can, and I will welcome any help, guidance and assistance. I KNOW losing weight is a battle. I have struggled with it ALL my life. I have been on every imaginable diet, most with success, however none with long term results. I now know it is ME! There is something in me that desperately wants to be thinner (no skinny anymore), but for some reason, the moment I start to look good (or better) off I go and back to the old me I go.

I turned 46 a couple of weeks ago, I know I dont look my age, but I "feel" twice my age. Last year for the first time, my doctor called me "morbidly obese"...what did I do??? I ate more!

I have made a pledge to myself, and now to everyone who reads this, that I want to be at least 30kgs lighter come my 47th birthday. I want to feel more comfortable in myself come this summer...I hid away and covered myself up last year and I wont have it again!

I know I have it in me to be a sexy woman. I am in a relationship, but my weight holds me back! My man has started to say things such as calling me "fat" which he never had before...even though he says it in a way not intended to hurt me, but it does. I bloody well KNOW I'm fat...help me!!!

I have a voice inside me begging....I have a little image in my mind of me looking good in a bathing suit...I have a lot of wishes and desires, the main one at the moment is getting started and sticking to it, and achieving minor goals each month...with a major goal in sight, come my 47th birthday.
I dont want to do this alone...so I call on you all :)
I want to become the best I can be!
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Re: The start of a new and improved me...

Postby Shalimar » Fri Jun 26, 2009 8:59 am

Go for it Frangipani, welcome to the forums and best of luck. You can do this :) .
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Re: The start of a new and improved me...

Postby frangipani » Fri Jun 26, 2009 10:46 am

Thanks Shalimar, I will need all the luck and support in the world. I think those who are overweight are the ONLY ones who can support each other. My partner is a steady weight, can eat enormous amounts of food and not gain a pound, and at other times, food is the last thing on his mind...he can even forget about eating!!!???? He's attitude is simple, "just do it!". We all know that is all that it takes, we all know that piece of cake or pizza or chocolate is NOT what we should be reaching for, but it is NOT as easy as it sounds and we do need support. Like an alcoholic. That's why I found this forum, to be around people who "understand" and can appreciate any loss is better than a gain. Who also understand that we all want to find than "thin" person within us, to feel better about ourselves and ultimately be healthier.
Along with looks, being thinner will save us money!!! It is so much cheaper buying fresh foods, smaller clothes and NO TAKE AWAYS!

We're in this together, and I want to fill this 35kg empty bucket with 35kgs of my fat!
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Re: The start of a new and improved me...

Postby Butterfly_Dawn » Fri Jun 26, 2009 11:22 am

Hi frangipani and welcome to the forum. It CAN be done. I lost 35kg in just under a year so you can too! It will be hard, and it won't happen over night (to quote a litereary genius LOL) but it can definitely happen if you put in the elbow grease. It is difficult for people who've never had to struggle with it to understand that it's not as easy as it sounds. But I read a good story about a guy who was a fitness instructor and he didn't understand how much trouble people were having, so he went and got himself fat and unfit and tried to get back to his original weight. He quickly discovered how demoralising it is and how hard it is.

So yeah, even though people don't understand, YOU do and WE do and it is true that what doesn't kill us makes us stronger - so keep fighting the battle and you'll be he one having the last laugh in the end.

Man, that was a post full of metaphors and similies and stuff if I ever saw one :lol:
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Re: The start of a new and improved me...

Postby Shalimar » Fri Jun 26, 2009 1:03 pm

You're right, we are all in this together and I do agree with you that the only person that can understand a fat person is another fat person.

It can be done, I think I am proof of that and I wish you all the best in doing so :D .
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Re: The start of a new and improved me...

Postby funstopper » Fri Jun 26, 2009 10:43 pm

Hi Frangipani, welcome.

I am relatively knew here too but all the support and advice I have recieved in my short time has been great, it has helped me stay positive and motivated (most of the time). Don't get me wrong, I still have my bad days but I find I can usually turn them around by jumping on here, posting in my journal thread or just by reading some of the other posts from people that do understand how I am feeling.

Its true, larger people understand one another and I am sure you will find lots of friendly people hear to help you, I know I have

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Re: The start of a new and improved me...

Postby frangipani » Sat Jun 27, 2009 12:45 pm

Thanks, I am sure that we are all in the same boat and rowing to the same destination, and the only way we can get there is to be a team and in sync. Sometimes that takes a while, some will lose an oar, some will get tired, some will want to jump overboard....God knows I have wanted to many a times.

One day at a time, 1 kilo at a time, and that's the way it is, so no need to try and rush or push it further - we will all get there eventually...if we want it bad enough....and I do this time!!!!

Good luck at aarriving at YOUR destination, I will try and not lose an oar :P
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Re: The start of a new and improved me...

Postby Butterfly_Dawn » Sat Jun 27, 2009 7:14 pm

You forgot the beating ourselves over the head with the oar. I get that a lot. Or knocking some sense into each other with a good whack with an oar :P
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15kg gained again (as at October 2010).
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Re: The start of a new and improved me...

Postby frangipani » Sat Jun 27, 2009 7:30 pm

Hahaha HOW could I forget that one??? I also forgot the one about falling overboard and not wearing a life vest (only because we can't find one that fits) and we get that sinking feeling...learning to float and keeping our heads ABOVE water and out of the fridge and cupboards is what will get us to our destination.
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