I am also in the same boat. I had kids and ballooned. When I read jon's book I realised that I secretly liked being fat. I felt safe, hidden and with very low expectations of myself. I also realised reading his book that I thought food could change how I felt about things in my life and that I used food and my weight to try and control my life. I am begining to change my thinking but it is not straight forward and I would love to hear how others have managed.