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An Introduction. A plea for Help

Postby SSS » Tue Jan 03, 2012 1:00 pm

Hi all.

My name is Stuart, I'm 32 and currently living in Melbourne's west. I'm writing this post as a form of commitment, and help. I have been doing allot of thinking about things recently and i think the time has come to try and turn it around. Firstly a little background about why i am here.

Most of my life i have been fit, healthy and happy. A regular soccer player, amongst other sports. I really do enjoy my sport with soccer being my leading passion. i worked in many fields since i was 15 from supermarkets to high end offices as a IT specialist. My jobs always kept me active and along with my hobbies i had a nice balance of exercise and diet.

when i was 19 i seriously hurt my back pushing a car trying to start it. at the time i was miss diagnosed and told to just rest and it will get better, this never happened and i have been living with it on and off ever since. recently i was told it's a bulging disc they said it's something "just have to live with" this seriously effects my quality of life, ability to work and health. more on that later.

2 years ago i had a break down at work, i quit and went into therapy. i was diagnosed with depression and currently take medication as well as seeing a professional. During all this have had some serious set backs with my back, even after seeing different physio's, GP's etc it seems i have hit a wall with treatment other than Pilates, stretching and trying to stay active. Hard to do when something as simple as washing the dishes can cause a flare up and have me riving in pain for 2 days, and back on my feet in 3-4.

With all that in mind. i kind of had a vision of what i didn't want to be when i was 30+, and i have become that. An overweight, lazy, unemployed loser that's fed up of feeling that way. since i have been off work i have gained 31kgs, on my 5ft 5 frame that's allot, especially when i am use to being 70ish. Today i type this at 101kgs, the heaviest i have ever been ever, and I'm sure other forumites here know how that feels, that is why i am reaching out for help. How goes some one with little to no self esteem, no job turn it around?
how does one charge i can't to i can? regardless of the hurdles in front of them. people with more debilitating injuries have done it why can't i?

I'm sick to death of having my back problem, and now my weight tieing me down. I have a loving and supportive wife that deserves a fit, agile and well built man to call her own, and i want to be that for her again. i want to get my old Liverpool (soccer) shirts out from my closet and where them again with pride But i don't know how?

I have made several attempts to make a habit of exercise but they have mostly failed as once i get going and into a routine my back will fail on me again and I'm back to square one. Including a blog i use to write daily. I don't have allot of exercise tools to work with but i do have a treadmill, xbox connect with the biggest loser game, and dogs.

I would like to hear from people that have had similar experiences, success stories and anyone that might have some advice on how i can turn this all around and be the buff, well defined man my wife deserves.

Thank you in advance for reading this long post,
Stuart.
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Re: An Introduction. A plea for Help

Postby miss_viva » Tue Jan 03, 2012 11:10 pm

Hi Stuart and welcome :)

Congratulations on recognising that your weight is becoming an issue and taking the first step to do something to reduce it! If it makes you feel any better, I am also 5ft5 and I was 115kgs when I first started trying to lose weight!

I don't have any medical knowledge, so I can't really assist you too much with some of the issues that you've brought up. Obviously you've seen a lot of GPs in the past about your medical issues, but have you ever spoken to one about losing weight? Before you embark on any kind of diet/program, it might be a good idea to go for a general check up and discuss some of your concerns with your GP. You might also want to discuss your current medication, weight gain could be a possible side effect. Maybe there is a different brand/medication that you could take as an alternative if this is the case? Perhaps your GP could make some recommendations in relation to your diet and what exercise he/she believes that you are capable of doing with your back issues. I'm personally a big fan of swimming (breaststroke), have you considered that? Swimming is a low impact cardiovascular activity, perhaps that wouldn't be too strenuous on your back.

Your post is largely focused on exercise, what is your diet like? I believe that exercise is an important factor in losing weight, but it's still possible to lose weight without doing a significant amount of exercise. Losing weight is simple mathematics: burn more calories than you take in. If you create a defecit, you will lose weight. Exercise just helps to increase that defecit, but you can still create one through diet alone.

You may want to look at a site like www.calorieking.com.au (free) and enter your personal details online. This site will create a personalised diet profile for you, which will tell you how many calories you need to eat per day to lose weight. www.myfitnesspal.com is another useful site that can do the same for you.

I think you should try not to beat yourself up too much, and just take baby steps. For example, try to incorporate a lot of fresh and healthy foods into your diet and cut out anything "bad". (Lollies, chips, cakes, takeout, fried food etc) Just use common sense and try and keep things as natural and unprocessed as possible. If you feel up to it, try and incorporate a little exercise into your routine. You also don't have to do all of your exercise at once. If you can only walk for a few minutes at a time, do that and then take a break! When you feel up to it again, do a few minutes more! :) No one says that you have to work out for (number) minutes straight - why not break it down into more manageable chunks?

Weightloss is all about consistency, so try and focus on the long term. It doesn't matter if you have a bad meal or a bad day here and there - just put it behind you and start again. You will eventually lose weight if you keep doing this :) Good luck with everything, keep us posted!
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Re: An Introduction. A plea for Help

Postby chelsclint » Fri Jan 06, 2012 12:31 am

Hi Stuart,
I totally understand how you are feeling... I was hit by a car three years ago and fractured my spine, hip and pelvis. I also have a bulging disc and other injuries so i really do understand.
I have put on so much weight its humiliating! I have tried so many diets and fads to lose weight but I know stand heavier than ive ever been...
I always thought my back would stop me doing excercise and stuff like that until I met a wonderful trainer who works with back injuries.... I was on a sole parent pension and broke as but I spoke to someone at my local fenix gym and they gave me a special plan for $16 a week. The trainer has shown me activities that dont effect my back injuries and they now have machines that take the impact off your back... it may be worth trying.
This is my first post on here, and I only started my weight loss journey this time.. two weeks ago... I would love to keep in touch with you and maybe we can help eachother!
Try not to be so down on yourself you really arent alone in this... goodluck and hope to speak to you soon!
Chelsie :P
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Re: An Introduction. A plea for Help

Postby SSS » Fri Jan 06, 2012 8:40 am

To Miss Viva,

thank you for your post and those new ideas. i guess i didn't mention diet because i think i eat pretty normally. steaks, pastas, vegies, chicken, stir frys etc s drink about 4 coffee's a day with Stevia not sugar, i have soda, water and i don't drink or smoke.

everything is oven cooked unless i can't avoid it (steak)

i will take on board what you said about diet, and exersise and experiment with it until i get a routine. thank you

To Chelsie

I saw your other post before, and i think it takes a tremendous amount of courage to face and defeat what you have. my injury pails in comparison to what you have and i wish you all the best in conquering those demons.

hearing from someone that suffers with a permant back injury is refreshing, coming from the same base background really helps me understand and define my limits. also inspire to push on with others.

I will get in touch with my local gyms today and see what they can do for me, thank you for your post.
and congratulations on your engagement.
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Re: An Introduction. A plea for Help

Postby SugarandSpice » Fri Jan 06, 2012 6:27 pm

Hi Stuart,

Congrats on starting your journey. I am also at the start, so probably don't have much advise I can give....

There were 2 things that popped out at me from your post though, which I though I would respond to.

1. I suffered depression for many years and was on Effexor for about 5 years - it is well know to cause excessive weight gain... Not sure what med's you are on and am not suggesting you stop them, but may be worth discussing with your GP?

2. My mother had a back problem after an accident and could hardly move at times, spending days on end in bed or begin taken back to hospital to get better pain relief. Late last year she started treatment which is more 'natural therapy' - "harmonic plate therapy"... I cannot attest to it myself, however my mother swears by it. She can now jog, where once she had trouble even walking...??? I don't know - just throwing the info out there in the chance it could be helpful???

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Re: An Introduction. A plea for Help

Postby chelsclint » Sat Jan 07, 2012 12:45 pm

Hi Stu, how did you go with phoning gyms and stuff? I truly believe starting is the hardest part so good luck xx
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Re: An Introduction. A plea for Help

Postby lmffph » Sun Jan 08, 2012 12:29 am

Hi Stuart

Welcome!! I'm 165cm and was 131.5kg when I started on this diet. If I can do it, you can too!

just to carry on from what Vicky mentioned re: alternative therapies. A former colleague of mine recently had a stroke which initially left him blind in his left eye. Another colleage from my old place of work is a qualified acupunturist.

Acu guy, has been visiting stroke guy in hospital every single day and doing his acu thing. It started off that during the acupuncture, stroke guy would get his sigh back in his left eye. Then this would last for about 15-20 minutes after the acupuncture, then an hour, and so on. He's now up to about 5 hours of getting his sight back.

I'm not sure where I sit on the alternative therapies fence, but they certainly seem to have some effect. Might be worth considering something like this as well to help give some pain relief.

Cheers
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Re: An Introduction. A plea for Help

Postby SSS » Mon Jan 09, 2012 9:56 am

Hi All,

thanks for the post and taking the time to offer your advice and opinion. boards like this are priceless in getting more information and reading others experiences.

I will certainly research the alternative therapies mentioned above, i will go in with an open mind and see what comes of it.
thanks for suggesting it
will let you know how i get on .

S
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Re: An Introduction. A plea for Help

Postby lmffph » Wed Jan 11, 2012 3:14 pm

Might be worth checking out bell st fitness in coburg if that's not too far to travel.

No contracts; 1, 3, 6, and 12 month memberships and you can also pay casually.

I go there and have found all the staff to be very pleasant and very helpful.
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New SW - 125.1 on 19/11/2012
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120kg -
115kg -
110kg -
105kg -
100kg -
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