BACK AGAIN! needing help....

[chelsclint]

Hi Guys... I was previously on this site and started to do well but life took over and i gave in and I now weigh more than ever before. Sadly im a size 26 - 28 and believe me it makes me cry to write this.
I am a really bad emotional eater and unfortunately no diet helps as I dont eat alot I just comfort eat all the wrong things. I have joined weightwatchers and have a gym membership but never seem to find the energy to go to either. To make things worse we really cant afford to be paying out for them but i have the most supportive fiance in the world who would do anything to help me.

I have two huge incentives to lose weight... My 14 year old daughter who is embarrassed beyond belief by my weight... we all know teenagers can be cruel and often she is hurt by their words about me and secondly Im getting married. I have 18 months to lose about 40 kg so I can fit in my dream wedding dress.

SOOOO Im back on the weightloss wagon and Im desperate to hear from anyone who has any ideas on how to stop comfort eating. It may sound like I have a great life with a daughter I love and a Fiance I adore and that i have no need to comfort eat but sadly this isnt the case.

I have another blog thingy in the personal progress section called Alot to lose... please feel free to read this too and I hope to get a chance to talk to you.

Goodluck all xx

[SydneyPT]

If you have a picture of your dream wedding dress, place it in spots where you will constantly have to look at it to motivate you to stay strong. Always think about your daughter being teased and use that as a driving factor to be strong. Also, keep thinking of your wedding day and what it would be like to not reach your goals once that day arrives. Work out your emotions WHY you eat in times of hardship and you can work from there.

Find other ways to deal with your emotions. Listening to music, going for a walk etc etc. Also, have ready to eat healthy foods around you. A piece of fruit or low-carb, low-fat snacks etc.

You mentioned having a gym membership but having no energy to go AND you are struggling financially. Weight watchers does the work for you, which is a plus but their food options are not that great (too carb heavy). Also, they are pricey. I suggest you look up information about food and make the decisions yourself. This will ensure that once you come off of weight watchers, you are able to make good choices and keep the weight off long-term. "Having no energy" is an excuse and a negative. My parents work from 5 in the morning to 9 at night and STILL find the time to go for a jog before bed. Stop making up excuses and do it. Think of the wedding date and the dress you want to fit into. Trust me, if you want it bad enough, you will do ANYTHING and EVERYTHING to get it. Just drag yourself to the gym. Yes, it is hard but it does get easier. Make it a part of your regular routine and it won't seem like a chore. Set your priorities straight and remember that consistency is key.


Good Luck.

[justme]

I was in a similar boat not that long ago, we are struggling financially too. We have three kids and I'm not working at the moment I tried weight watches too and found it really hard to keep going and found it really expensive not only the fees but also how much food costs etc. First time I walked throu the door I was mortified with my-self I was the second biggest there and felt like censored, embarrassed, lonely cause I knew no-one and I couldn't wait to get out of there. I tried going back a few times but I wasn't in a place emotionally to do it. I think weight watches is awesome for some people but not for me at that time.

I started working on my emotions first, researched habits of happy and healthy people and decided that it how I want to live. So I started writing down 10 things I am grateful for each morning, first few times were a real challenge, and each time I did I started to feel a bit better and bit more positive about my day. I then looked into Lite N Easy and at first was in tears at how much it costs, but then I started thinking about how much I spend on my comfort eating and worked out it was a lot. I'd go to the shops for bread and milk and come back with Camembert Cheese, chips, chocolates and biscuits plus a drink for the trip home (wasn't into fizzy drink, but chocolate milk or charlie's traditional lemonade) so my comfort eating was adding up. So I started Lite N Easy and the first week was hard, I think changing any habit is a challenge, and in the last 3.5 weeks I have lost 9.5kg down to 134.7 kg from 144.2 kg, I had a three day bust when my partner when to Rockhampton for a week - but got back on the band wagon. I've also bought my-self a cheap outfit I really like and that I want to fit in to and hung it up in my bedroom on the curtain rail so I see it every morning and every night before going to bed - it helps.

For me I've only just started and I know there are going to be challenges, I know it's not going to be easy - but for the first time I know I am going to be ok. There are times when it is soooo hard, but I stop my-self and ask my-self why - other times in the day I stop for a minute and ask my-self how am I feeling good ok why, bad ok why? There are that many options out there for weight loss and so many people have different opinions about what you should and shouldn't do - I love all the opinions cause it gives me the opportunity to find out what suits me and learn a whole heap more. For me it was working on my emotions and head so to speak which then lead to really being in a place where I want this in a real manageable way. Look for what suits you, there's that much information out there it's just a matter or sorting through it and being comfortable with your choice for a healthier life. I've just started a 12 week challenge today and your more than welcome to join in

[chelsclint]

Thanks guys i appreciate the response and your advice.
Ive actually decided to come off weight watchers now as its money we really cant afford and its not helping me... if i dont lose one week i really punish myself and i really dont think its helping me. I only went to weight watchers to be able to monitor my weight as i weigh more than 150 kg and cant weigh myself on regular scales but talking to my Fiance tonight i realised that concentrating 100% on the scales is only doing me harm. So im not going to weigh myself, im just going to go by my energy levels and my clothes.


Sydney... I received a free PT session at my gym for my birthday so im heading in there TOMORROW to do that... Ive asked the guy to help me with what i can actually do that wont hinder my injuries. I weigh over 170kg and have a major spinal injury. I was hit by a car a few years back and fractured my hip, pelvis and spine and as i was flat out for a long time amd i started to gain the bulk. I now have a degenerative back disease and a prolapsed disk, and due to my weight i have a lot of trouble doing any exercise without it triggering my back again. I am so sick of using this as excuse though so im seeing a PT who specialises in back injury and have a letter from my dr explaining my injuries and im going to try.
When i said i just dont have the energy to go the gym i dont mean physical energy as such. Its great your parents are able to work so hard and still find the time to jog but im sure they arent over 170kg and struggle to walk let alone jog. At my weight walking from the lounge to the bathroom... or down the drive way is like completing a marathon.
I know its no ones fault other than my own though and im trying to change it. I hope this doesnt sound arky as i really appreciate youre advice and suggestions.
I do have a pic of the wedding dress i want on my mobile phone... i cant put it up round the house cause i live with my Fiance and obviously dont want him to see it but when im tempted i have my phone near by and my daughter. I will try listening to music and i will buy some fresh fruit to keep at my parents.. i think the problem is im there all day to help mum with my dad and they dont have anything healthy to snack on so ill fix that! (Dads terminally ill)
As of Tomorrow my plan is to drop my daughter at school and go straight to the gym because i know once i go to mums i wont leave til school pick up... so wish me luck cause i really do want this BADLY!!!


Just me..... Thanks i honestly cried at the end of your note... because you really sound like you believe you really are going to be ok this time... this is what i desperately need to accept.. i need to learn to have a little faith in myself and some will power. Im going to try and follow the ten things each morning but i think ill start with five.. i just dont know that they will change much morning to morning lol ID love to hear more about the 12 week challenge whats it involve? i like your look on things and i hope to learn to be a little more positive really soon xx


So people... goodluck and goodnight xx

[justme]

Thank you for that Sometimes I feel like crying tears of happiness too, I can't remember ever being this at peace with my-self and every area of my life is getting better daily. I attribute this alot at looking at what I am grateful for in my life and spending more energy on the positive rather than letting my-self be dragged down by the challenges that appear.

If your interested in the 12 week challenge just click my name and it will show the posts I have, choose the 12 week challenge one and join in down the bottom by putting in your current details and what your goals are. Then each week we weigh in and log it so we can see if we are making changes and what they are. Rather than looking at the total amount we need to loose we just work towards small steps along the way. I weigh in on Monday but it doesn't really matter whether when you start or what day you weigh in.

Good luck and hope you have a great day

[chelsclint]

Hi again Just me...
Im going to do the challenge but it will be slightly different... i cant weigh myself as ive given up weightwatchers and now cant weigh myself... im still over the 150kg so i cant buy scales that will give me a weight.

I hope i can soon find the peace you have found... its very inspiring... goodluck with the challenge and keep me informed xx

[justme]

More than welcome in the challenge in whatever way you want to join, could even just go on waist measurement or feeling completely up to you

Did some research for you and if you go to Harvey Norman they have quite a few scales that measure higher weights the two cheapest I found are;
Weight Watchers Scales up to 172 kg and $34 and the Weight Watchers Body Analysis Scales 182 Kg and $59.95. However there are a lot more and even a couple that go up to 200 kg, they are little more expensive about $69.99 up to $127.99. You can either buy on the net or phone up a store near you too see what they have in stock.

Look forward to seeing you round and good luck again

[chelsclint]

Hi Everyone...


Thanks Just me that is great ill check them out next week on payday as im flat broke atm! lol
soooo tired ill write more tomorrow.. how have you been going the past few days?

[justme]

Hey hope you had a goodnight sleep

Going ok still loosing a little each day, today a bit so so. Just entered day 1 of quitting smoking cold turkey rofl

Let us know how your day goes, hope you have a wonderful one

[nari1208]

Hey hope you had a goodnight sleep

Going ok still loosing a little each day, today a bit so so. Just entered day 1 of quitting smoking cold turkey rofl

Let us know how your day goes, hope you have a wonderful one

That is good to here. Congratsulations. Keep it up! You're such a great example for everyone.

[nari1208]

Hey hope you had a goodnight sleep

Going ok still loosing a little each day, today a bit so so. Just entered day 1 of quitting smoking cold turkey rofl

Let us know how your day goes, hope you have a wonderful one

Wow. Keep it up. That is a great start. you are a good example to everyone.Just always do what you think is right.

[justme]

Lol thank you

Well smoking is gone on day four and no need for a smoke, still a little jittery and not so focused but otherwise I am a non-smoker Been updating my posts this morning as busy weekend and this is the third time I've said it and I'm still getting a massive kick out of it YAY a non-smoker

Had a couple of binge days this week (day 1 and 2 of not smoking) but have lost what I gained over the two days and officially lost 1.5 kgs this week so pretty happy.

Hope you had a good weekend and again thank you both . . . .

[chelsclint]

Hello again

Congrats on the no smoking just me that is an awesome effort!

ive actually done well this week... lost 3.5kg so im rapped with that.

I will write more on Monday though as its a busy busy weekend just wantedto check in.

Take care and Goodluck xx

[SydneyPT]

Just out of curiosity, what did the PT suggest you do? Exercise wise. I just want to see if he/she is competent or not

[justme]

That's fantastic we'll done