A want becoming a need...that's even better.
You can't lose weight to fullfill other people's expectations. You have to own it as your own. I know about mothers. They want the best for you but sometimes they are as subtle and as helpful as a jackhammer on a walnut. My mother's "encouragement" always sent me in the opposite direction. When I finally decided it was time to lose the weight, I didn't let my mother know at all. I started in January 2011 and didn't tip her until early April 2011. She may have noticed by herself anyway as I had lost 30kgs by then! Interestingly she never asked me directly about my weight loss after that (she would pump my sister for that).
Every reason you find that supports your decision to lose weight is good. They will weave a rope that will keep you strongly tied to your cause. Health is a major reason. One that is important for the rest of your life. Stuff like looking good in clothes etc...that will all fade but if you don't have your health - then you are in trouble. Health was a biggie for me. My body had put up with years of abuse, finally it started to crack up on so many different fronts. It was time. Just simply time to do something about my weight...or I would not have lasted much longer.
There is always hope. I was one of these guys you saw at the shopping centres. My gut use to rub against the steering wheel of my car. With my car seat as far back as I could get it, I had to suck in my stomach to get my fully extended seat belt on. Not comfortable at all. Now; the seat is in a normal position and my stomach is more than 30cm from the steering wheel. Anyone who is committed to lose weight can lose weight no matter what their circumstances are. If I can lose weight; a man who was full of ignorance on the subject, cronic asthmatic, with a bad back, over the hill, lazy and a lover of the "good life" can do it - then anyone can. Again, there is always hope.
The shopping centre and tv guys? I don't fear that I could become like them now. My heart breaks for them because I know that with a few basic changes in their lives they could have such a better future. I am filled with compassion and I passionately want to help them.
This forum can be of great benefit to you. There are many people here who have walked in your shoes and are still walk in your shoes. They understand and want to help, encourage without judgement (because we know) and share their journey and experiences. We have no agenda, except to help you have a better future.
Wishing you the very best
ps Maybe I do have another agenda...anyone named Kim is definitely worth helping!