Fat 2 skinny wrote:
Iam 36yrs old and overweight. I need to rid my body of 30 kilos. It is so overwhelming to look at that number
, I know I need to set mini goals and focus on them. But I'm finding it hard to be motivated and have the will power. So I have come here in hopes of finding some motivation.
Welcome to the Forum Fat 2 skinny!
Do you have a first name I can use?
Don't worry about that 30 kilo number. When you've lost it, you will look at it in a new light...indeed you will boast about overcoming it rather than feeling overwhelmed by it. Just figure it as the high watermark of your life and it marks the turning point of to a healthier lifestyle.
Lucky I was largely ignorant about the amount of weight I had to lose.
When I worked out that I had to lose 87 kilos I did pause long enough to say to myself that it did seem a rather largish number!
Fortunately it didn't click that I was actually asking to lose more than half what I weighed.
I just said to myself; "It is what it is...I put it on and now it is time to take it off".
You will be surprised by how quickly that number will be cut down.
I went from 153.7kg to 66.6kg in exactly 60 weeks.
I never during that time had a spectacular week and lost a huge amount.
My best week was a 3.4kg...but most weeks were far less than that.
My losses were moderate but consistent...and before I knew it I had lost 56% of my starting weight.
This will happen to you too if you stay the course.
Fat 2 skinny wrote:I want to be healthy and fit so that I can keep up with my 5yr old daughter. She wants me to be healthy, and so tired all the time.
That's a great reason.
My daughter was 9 years old before I had the courage to step up and be the parent I should have been.
I so relate to your comment about being so tired all the time. I was carrying around 87 kilos extra - no wonder I was feeling so tired!
But the beautiful thing is there is a better future ahead. I know from experience that it is so.
These days I run around with her and do things I would never have dreamed possible.
Indeed she sometimes finds it hard keeping up with me - and I'm 56!
When you lose those 30 kilos you will be literally bouncing around with energy and enthusiasm for life.
Fat 2 skinny wrote:
So if anyone can point me in the right direction to find some motivation, will power and the best place to start setting small goals that would be great.
Motivation: I recommend writing out a list of ALL the reasons why you want to lose weight. Include not only the big reasons (like your daughter for example) but also the most trivial ones (like wanting to fit and look good in jeans or being able to put your socks on without a struggle). After you've done that, write out ALL the reason why you want to remain obese. There are reasons...the current lifestyle must have a pay off otherwise you wouldn't have kept it up for so long. Now look at the two lists honestly. Meditate and think deeply about each list until you are sold on the idea that your current lifestyle isn't working and that you have to change it in order to achieve all the benefits that you want in your life.
You have to turn weight loss from a WISH into a WANT and then into a MUST.
These reasons (benefits) will be the bases of your motivation.
Will Power: Don't worry about will power. It is a human trait that blows hot and cold. Will power in the end will fail.
What you must cultivate is new character. When will power fails - character (who you are when no one is looking) prevails and persists.
This requires you to change your lifestyle. As your lifestyle changes so too does your character as you embrace those changes.
Best Place To Start: Where you can. No use trying to up turn your whole lifestyle in one swoop. You must find what works for you. That is why formal diets and programs have such a high failure rate. They are other people's lifestyle choices shoehorned into yours. Unless you own the lifestyle you lead then sooner or later you will fail. You have to make it your own. Start with little changes that you can cope with.
For example, in my case when I started exercising all I could manage was a ten minute walk before my bad back and asthma would do me in. As I got more fit, I would push myself a little harder. My adage was "push but don't break...listen to your body". Towards the end of my weight loss journey I built my fitness up to a point where I was running for an hour, swimming for an hour and riding my exercise bike for an hour and still be up for more!
With food I started with the simple idea of eating that since I was twice the size I should have been then I had best eat half as much as I did. As I journeyed along I made healthier choices as wisdom and taste took over. I never had a forbidden list of foods. My adage was "all things in moderation"...any unhealthy foods eaten meant I took responsibility for by eating less of othe things or doing extra exercise to make up for the extra calorie intake.
Fat 2 skinny wrote:Iam going to start keeping a food diary and find out how many calories I need to be eating to help rid my body of the excess weight. Im also going to dust of the nintendo wii and start playing the fitness games again, and dust of the aerobic step I have and find some videos to watch on step aerobics.
I really enjoy step aerobics and walking, so I may even start walking again, once my daughter to back at school, I might go for a walk instead of going home to do the house work. Her school is a 20 drive not possible to walk there we do park about 5mins down the road from the school as like a lot of schools there isn't much parent parking.
Thanks in advance.
All good ideas. I was never disciplined enough to keep a food diary. Mine lasted two whole days before I gave it up.
I did (and still do) however write what I weigh every day with maybe a word or two comments about special events (ie being ill or going out to a restaurant or failing to do my regular amount of exercise).
When losing weight I found it very instructive to help me understand how my body works and reacts to events.
Also I used it as a motivation to do better the next day.
My aim was always to have a lower number than the day before (sure many days it didn't happen but that was the driver).
Another thing is that it kept me accountable.
No day was fudged and my daughter and wife could always see what the number was (I kept the book open - and it lives near the phone).
If you want further inspiration - check out the before and after photos of me that Forum section...and say to yourself that could be you too.
And why not? If this guy, the wrong side of 50, with a belly hernia the size of his fist, with a bad back, chronic asthma, ingrown toe nails and no idea how to lose weight can do it (and keep it off for three years now) - then why not me?
Why not indeed? Use this Forum to the max. There is a lot of wisdom here.
But above all there is a lot of support here...for we here have travelled and are travelling a similar journey to your own.
You will always find encouragement and help on your way to that better future!
Grab that better future...it's there for the taking!