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Postby Lesley » Sat Dec 17, 2005 9:43 am

Hi, I've been looking at this forum on and off for a few weeks and didn't have the nerve to join. Well now I'm here. I first put on a lot of weight when I had my daughter 12 years ago. I knuckled down by eating sensibly and walking as much as I could and lost 25 kg. With my 2nd child I only put on about 10kg, and lost that easily. My problem is that about 5 years ago I started to put on weight because I comfort eat to combat daily chronic pain. 4 years ago I had to quit work (I was a Primary School Teacher) due to the chronic pain. I was nearly bed ridden so between that and comfort eating I put on 30kg. I have tried so hard to eat sensibly (I don't believe in diets) and exercise, but find that I always crash as soon as the pain overwhelms me. Due to the pain I have sleeping problems and I tend to overeat at night time. I find that I'll lose 3 or 4 kilos and then put it all back on again because I can't get out to exercise and turn to food at night. I know that you can't help me with the pain but I'm hoping to get some support with the eating side of things. I know that if I could lose weight I'd have more energy and the pain would be more managable. As I said I've been there done that. Only this time around things are not working out.
I'd be happy to receive help. I know that the pain issue could be an excuse to eat and I need to tackle that. I've been trying to "get real" about life and take one day at a time, but boy is it depressing. Sorry I've poured my heart out (and my life).

Well done to all those people that are succeeding I'd love to hear from you.

Merry christmas to all. That's it for now. From Lesley.
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Postby jodestar » Sat Dec 17, 2005 9:56 am

Hi Lesley,

Welcome:)
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Postby Dolly » Sat Dec 17, 2005 11:07 am

Hi Lesley,
So wonderful to have you join the forum, and very brave as this is the eating season so this will be quite a challenging month,
so you obviously mean business.

I too suffered with on going chronic pain for 10 years. it was in my lower right quadrant (appendix area) and the pain radiated over my right hip and into my lower right ribs and ached all the nerves in my spine.
I was often on all fours soundlessly screaming in agony but by the time I was well enough to move and get to a hospital or doctor the pain was always tender but more settled, so they didn't know what was wrong.
The quacks treated me for what they thought it might be, they took out my appendix, they then treated me for irritable bowl, then they thought it might be a dislodged rib cartledge and injected me with steroids, then they thought it might be fibroids. I kept away from doctors as they didn't help and in time (years) the pain eventually disappeared.
It turned out I had ovarian cysts that were bursting just before my period, and because it went un treated I got hypothyroidism.
People with hypothyroidism often suffer with ovarian cysts first.
Because my thyroid hormone is now disfunctional I have next to no metabolism and gain weight if I eat a normal sized meal.

I hope they can find out what's causing your pain and not just give you liver damaging strong pain tablets as they did me.

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Postby Butterfly_Dawn » Sat Dec 17, 2005 2:18 pm

Hi Lesley,
Welcome on board!
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Postby Fairie » Sat Dec 17, 2005 3:34 pm

Hi Lesley,

Welcome to the forum, hope you join in and look forward to reading your posts.

Good luck with your weightloss journey.
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Thank you for all your kind welcomes

Postby Lesley » Sat Dec 17, 2005 5:08 pm

:D I'd like to thank everyone that has welcomed me today. It's so nice to be made to feel welcomed somewhere new.

Dolly, I've actually had this chronic pain since a car accident back in 1986. I dealt with it pretty well until 5 years ago. I went to Uni, had a family, lost a lot of weight and then everything fell apart about 5 years ago when I just wasn't coping with the increased frequency of the pain. Over the last 19 years I have seen so many specialists and alternative medicine practitioners it's not funny. Then last year I did a pain management course and I got off all the liver damaging drugs I was on and have learnt to take one day at a time. The last year has been a little better than the 4 years previously. I'm getting on with my life now, making better choices and not acting like a pain victim. Doing more with my children, despite the pain. I find that some exercise makes it worse and others help me. I try to walk as often as possible as this helps. I know this is just something I have to live with so for me it's no more excuses as to why I "can't" exercise or why I overeat. It is crunch time and reality check time. Hopefully with the forums help I'll be able to takle this weight problem, one kilo at a time.
I'm actually excited now that I've met a few of you. Before, when I signed up I was scared of rejection. People just don't want to know other people's problems. Now I know that I can forge ahead with my weight loss problems, read others tips and tricks to losing weight and most of all have the support for losing the weight - something I have not had recently. So I say a big thank you to you all and Good Luck with your own weight loss goals. :P
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Postby Butterfly_Dawn » Sat Dec 17, 2005 5:59 pm

Awwww, big group hug!!!!! We're all pretty supportive in here, and I don't think any of us would dare reject a fellow weight loss crusader!
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Postby Dolly » Sat Dec 17, 2005 9:56 pm

Living with pain must be such a challenge, anytime you need to talk we'll be here to listen.

If you wish to have a ticker graph, simply click onto anyones ticker factory weight loss graph and it'll take you to a site. Just follow the instructions and at the end of it you'll see a few codes, copy and paste the one called BBCode back to your post on this forum.
If you have any questions, just ask.
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Postby BigM » Sat Dec 17, 2005 11:09 pm

hi Lesley and welcome to the board. You will find many supportive and great people here who will help you achieve the desired weight loss goal :)
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Postby losebabyfat_2005 » Sun Dec 18, 2005 3:35 am

hi lesley

Welcome to the board, I just thought I'd introduce myself to you. I'm 19, have a husband and nearly 5 month old daughter. As you may've noticed I'm actually down to my goal weight if you've looked at any of my posts. I'm sticking around to keep myself motivated to live healthy and not eat too much junkfood. If you have any questions about weightloss or want to talk I'm here for you.

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Another big thank you for your warm welcome

Postby Lesley » Sun Dec 18, 2005 1:48 pm

Hi everyone, I just wanted to say that I'm really moved by your warm welcome (nearly bought tears to my eyes). It is so nice to be accepted into a new "family". I know that I'll get the support I need here.

My first confession - Last night I cooked muffins for a special occasion and also bought some cream biscuits as a rare treat for the kids because the biscuits were reduced. I don't usually have food like this in my house as I know I'll pig out. Well last night instead of enjoying just one muffin, I had 4. Then I went on to have 4 cream biscuits.

Why do I do this? I wish i didn't. It happens all the time. I'll resolve to eat correctly and then I can't sleep and eat what ever is in the house. Usually as there is no cakes or biscuits I'll fill up on half a loaf of bread and jam. Any solutions out there?


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Postby Butterfly_Dawn » Sun Dec 18, 2005 2:32 pm

Maybe try leaving little messages on stickers around the kitchen. My bloke likes to have bikkies and muffins and chips in his lunch so they're always in the house. I try to cook "healthy" muffins (wholemeal etc) and induce him to like them so that I can have the occasional muffin too. But the bikkies are a weakness with me, once I have 1 I find it VERY difficult not to convince myself that "just one more won't hurt...and another...just one more" then before I know it I have to buy a new packet for him :oops: . And chocolate.

The way I have fixed this is:

I borrowed the label-maker machine thing from the bloke's work and put stickers on the bikkie jar to the effect of "70kg or 170 -your choice" "get the hell away from the bikkies!" "Not for Tegan" all over the bikkie jar. You could put similar reminders around the kitchen, perhaps suggesting an alternative to eating. Maybe take up a hobby such as making bead earrings and necklaces - you can fiddle for ages. Or get a good book. Or maybe even exercise if you're feeling particularly dedicated! I find the little sticker reminders focus my attention on what I'm doing and act as a reality check - do I really want to make the choice to eat when I'm not hungry, knowing that it will lead to a bigger ass.

With the choccie, my partner doesn't eat chocolate (he still has easter eggs from last year :roll: ) so I don't have to buy for him, but I really do love choccie. Therefore I buy only 85% cocoa lindt chocolate which is far far lower in fats and sugars, has far more of the good elements in the cocoa and has the advantage that you can't eat half the block because it's so strong.

Anyway, sorry for the long post, but I thought I'd share my tips. :D

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Postby hushpuppy » Sun Dec 18, 2005 2:45 pm

Welcome to the forums Lesley and hope to see you around the boards .
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Thanks for the tips Tegan

Postby Lesley » Sun Dec 18, 2005 5:35 pm

Hi again, thank you for the tips Tegan. I have tried having notices all over my kitchen, with little effect. The only one that worked was the one on the freezer that said "little pickers wear bigger nickers." The reason this worked is because that is where I keep the muffins or anything else I bake for the family and only a serve gets defrosted or put in a lunchbox at a time.

I like your idea of getting a label maker and putting labels all over the bikkie jar.

I'm not sure if I could have chocolate that is so strong. I've never had Lindt. I have had dark chocolate and this gave me a migraine (i've had it a couple of times with the same effect), so I presume a rich, expensive chocolate would do the same. :cry:

I love to read, but unfortunately I associate reading with eating and relaxing. That dates back to a habit I picked up when I was young and still at home. Mum and me used to read whilst eating lunch on weekends and holidays. And I still do it! Only problem is I love to read before going to bed and then i want to eat as well.
Yes - I do need to find some type of hobbie where I don't eat.
I'm not really up to exercising at midnight when I eat junk food. So I don't think that's an option. I'm working on doing relaxation to try to get to sleep earlier. It takes practice, so hopefully I'll get results with this.

My posts are always long. Hope thats OK.

Cheers Lesley

P.S. How do I get my ticker graph up after each post or do I have to cut and past every time.
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Postby Butterfly_Dawn » Sun Dec 18, 2005 5:58 pm

If you look at the top of the screen, there is a button marked profile. if you click on that there is a section called 'signature' where you can put little words of encouragement or wisdon and also post the bcc code for your ticker graph. Once you do that, your ticker and anything else in that section will come up on each post you make!

Sounds like you have been conditioned into associating reading with food. And if I read you right, you MAY also have been conditioned into associating bed with reading (and hence food). One of the first things they get insomniacs to do is to not do anything in bed except for sleep and the horizontal rhumba. If you go to bed and are not tired, don't read, don't toss and turn, get up and do something (not eat) until you feel tired. That way you train yourself to associate 'bed' with 'sleep'.

Something that may help you sleep better - I know the pain is a factor in keeping you awake, but this may kick-start the sleep initiation. Before we fall asleep there is a marked drop in body temperature, which is your body saying 'hey, I'm switching off for a while now'. Many poeple find that if they induce a large temperature dop, this can trigger sleep.

'But how do I do that?' I hear you ask. Well, running a hot bath just before bed will do the trick - your body heats up, then after you get out, it cools down quickly and hey presto you have a temperature drop. It is also very relaxing and can act as a ritual signal that it's now time for bed

Also, try to make sure your bed is well made each night. Clean, crease free sheets increase comfort.

See now, I knew there was a reason I did that course on States of Consciousness! :P
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