HappyGirl83 wrote:No matter how much I lose, how pretty my face is, I will never be good enough for them.
What a bunch of jerks! I'm really sorry that you had to go through that. You know what? Screw him. I'm sure you looked fantastic that night and you should try not to let some a**hole get to you and derail all of the great work that you've been doing. I know how you feel and I've been on the receiving end of comments like that before, but I always just tell myself "does this jerk know me? No. Do I care what he thinks? No." Like Skinnyinside said, he's probably some pathetic loser who is just trying to big-note himself in front of his equally pathetic friends.
It's extremely cliched, but I seriously believe that any guy who is that judgemental is not the kind of guy you should want to be with in the first place. If your past boyfriend dumped you because of your weight, you should consider yourself lucky that you found out now before getting more involved with him! Good riddance to a shallow prick. Do you think he's the kind of guy who is going to be there through all of the ups and downs of life if he can't even handle the ups and downs of your weight and still love you?
Sorry for the rant, but I hate guys like this. There are a lot of great guys out there who will really love you for who you are inside, and not care about your weight. Any guy who is worth it will be able to look beyond the exterior packaging and see who you are on the inside. The problem is that when people first meet, we do tend to judge outside appearances first and then take the time to get to know the person inside. We're all guilty of that. Being a bigger girl can make it hard to get to that next level of getting to know someone at times, especially when you're "competing" against all of these other skinny girls! However, I truly believe that the guys who can look beyond that and take the time to get to know you are the ones you should be interested it. Forget the tools like the one you encountered the other night. He doesn't know you, he doesn't know how far you've come and he certainly doesn't know the impact that his words will have upon you. Don't let some a** like that get you down, you're far too good for him anyway.
Don't be discouraged, keep going and get even hotter, then relish in rejecting tools like that next time you're out with your friends!