HappyGirl83's journey to becoming a happy girl :)

[skinnyinside]

I'm new to the forum and was having a look trhough past posts etc.

Thats terrible that they said that to you, some guys can be such jerks, its a big macho tough act infront of their friends.

You have done a great job so far!! our starting weughts are very similar as are our goals, I hope i can do as well as you!!

[miss_viva]

No matter how much I lose, how pretty my face is, I will never be good enough for them.

What a bunch of jerks! I'm really sorry that you had to go through that. You know what? Screw him. I'm sure you looked fantastic that night and you should try not to let some a**hole get to you and derail all of the great work that you've been doing. I know how you feel and I've been on the receiving end of comments like that before, but I always just tell myself "does this jerk know me? No. Do I care what he thinks? No." Like Skinnyinside said, he's probably some pathetic loser who is just trying to big-note himself in front of his equally pathetic friends.

It's extremely cliched, but I seriously believe that any guy who is that judgemental is not the kind of guy you should want to be with in the first place. If your past boyfriend dumped you because of your weight, you should consider yourself lucky that you found out now before getting more involved with him! Good riddance to a shallow prick. Do you think he's the kind of guy who is going to be there through all of the ups and downs of life if he can't even handle the ups and downs of your weight and still love you?

Sorry for the rant, but I hate guys like this. There are a lot of great guys out there who will really love you for who you are inside, and not care about your weight. Any guy who is worth it will be able to look beyond the exterior packaging and see who you are on the inside. The problem is that when people first meet, we do tend to judge outside appearances first and then take the time to get to know the person inside. We're all guilty of that. Being a bigger girl can make it hard to get to that next level of getting to know someone at times, especially when you're "competing" against all of these other skinny girls! However, I truly believe that the guys who can look beyond that and take the time to get to know you are the ones you should be interested it. Forget the tools like the one you encountered the other night. He doesn't know you, he doesn't know how far you've come and he certainly doesn't know the impact that his words will have upon you. Don't let some a** like that get you down, you're far too good for him anyway.

Don't be discouraged, keep going and get even hotter, then relish in rejecting tools like that next time you're out with your friends!

[HappyGirl83]

Thanks skinnyinside and miss v!!

I know deep down those douche guys don't mean anything. It was just comment, one sentence, in the long time line of life. But at the time it stuck in my brain.

I seriously would not ever consider a guy who was a total loser that. I will admit I am a little bit bitter towards men. Not because of the weight thing, but just in general. My friends and I seem to always get treated bad by them (yes, even the skinny ones) we just cannot seem to meet decent guys. Lately I always seem to be the girl who guys want to cheat on their girls with or they just want a casual thing with and that is just not me. It just really feels like it is just not going to happen, the whole happily ever after BS. Blah, hurts my brain to even think about it!

Back on topic, I renewed my membership at the gym last night. Super keen to get back into classes and get my fitness on!!

[skinnyinside]

Excellent news about renewing your membership I have a membership and im cancelling it lol, i never have the time to go and i have been paying for about 6 months without going

[wants2loseWEIGHT]

Hi SkinnySide. I just came across your page. I'm new here. Will try to read through your past posts first. Happy Christmas!

[miss_viva]

Good for you for renewing your gym membership!

I totally get what you mean about comments sticking in your mind, even if the person has no idea that they are having that effect on you. I once had a guy say to me "I really like your soft tummy", and he honesty meant it as a compliment, but I just couldn't get that out of my mind. My tummy was actually one of the parts of my body that I'd always felt good about, as it was relatively flat compared to the rest of me. (I tend to carry weight around my thighs/hips more). So although it kind of hurt, I decided to use that comment as motivation instead to generally tone up my body, not just my tummy.

I hope you have a good NYE, wear that new dress out with pride and don't let any douchey guys get you down!

[HappyGirl83]

Once again thanks all!!

I am bursting out of my skin about the weekend ahead! I have a good feeling it is going to be epic!

I am on track, still in the 70's and feeling good!

My friend and I had a 'dress rehearsal' for our big New Years Eve event tonight. Augh feeling so good! I've got the dress, the freshly ash blonde hair and the tan. I am damn ready! Bring it on!

Hope everyone has a mad and crazy awesome New Years! I shall report back on all the going on's next week

[miss_viva]

I hope you have a great weekend and enjoy all of the NYE celebrations!

Can't wait to hear about all the going ons! Happy 2012!

[HappyGirl83]

Happy New Year all!!

Wow, what a weekend. I had too much fun, hands down best weekend of my life!!! I don't even know how to describe it so I'll throw it in a few key words - great friends, awesome parties, amazing clubs, chilled pubs and very cute boys

And to top it all off, I lost weight! At 78.5kg today. So far this year is looking AWESOME!

[äirly]

Congratulations on 78.5kg HG!! What an inspiraing start to 2012

[miss_viva]

Woo! Congratulations, you're doing so well! I'm glad you had an amazing time out, and losing weight at the same time is a great bonus!

[babylove]

Hi! Sounds like 2012 is your year. I love that feeling of breaking thru to the next lot of numbers (in a downward fashion that is, lol). Congrats on the losses and renewing your gym membership!

[äirly]

Hi! Sounds like 2012 is your year. I love that feeling of breaking thru to the next lot of numbers (in a downward fashion that is, lol). Congrats on the losses and renewing your gym membership!

Hehehe yeah, TOTALLY different feeling on 'weigh' up!

[HappyGirl83]

Hey all!! Who's been quiet in the cheap seats hey?! Meeeee lol.

I can't believe how crazy, good and bad 2012 has been already. January done and dusted and now bring on Feb, wooo!

Weighed in today at 77.1kg which is fab. I leave on Sunday for the South Pacific Islands which I am super excited about it!! It's so good to be going on holidays the lightest I have been in years.

I hope everyone else is doing well!! And that 2012 has been good to you!!

[SugarandSpice]

Congratulations and have a great holiday!!!