Julz wrote:you see people on the biggest loser dropping 12kg a week or so and other ridiculous amounts so it seems completely do able without having to overdo it in 6 weeks if you get what I mean.
I understand where you are going with the above comment, and how shows like TBL can make huge losses every week seem realistic. HOWEVER, you have to keep in mind that these are tv shows, and not everything is how it seems. These shows are filmed in advance, and are filmed over a period of months. "One week" in Biggest Loser time might actually be two weeks in reality. They manipulate the time to make the losses seem more impressive. I'm not saying that these people aren't going out and losing huge amounts of weight, just that things aren't always as they seem and it may not have been during one week. Prior contestants have admitted that this is the case, and there is a discussion about this somewhere over on TBL forums. Also keep in mind that TBL is an extreme weightloss show, and that these people have access to personal trainers, the best equiptment, and dieticians round the clock. It's not sustainable to exercise for 6 hours a day while eating such a restricted amount of calories. That is why you see some people regain the weight after they have completed their stint on the show.
Julz wrote:I have spent countless hours researching trying to find out why this happened its all I can do until I can hopefully get some answers from the specialist. The things I read scare the hell out of me. I'm more likely to have stillborn baby if I am obese, if I have a history of it, and as my age increases, there it is 3 out of 3 strikes.
Julz, I know that this is such a difficult time, but you really have to try not to blame yourself for this. I know it's so much easier to say than do, but it's true. While you may have these risk factors, it doesn't necessarily mean that these are what caused you to lose your baby. Try to remember that there have been so many slim and young women who have suffered from miscarriages/stillborn babies, just as there have been older and overweight mothers who have had perfectly healthy babies. Again, I really hope that I don't come across as insensitive in saying this, but perhaps this was just natures way of saying that something just wasn't quite right with the pregnancy. It's nothing that you could have done to prevent, so please don't beat yourself up over this.
Julz wrote:I feel like this is something i have to do right here and right now and that I am running out of time.
I think that after you go and see the specialist again, you'll know more about this. You really have to take care of yourself now and not push your body too much, as it has been through a difficult event physically. I think it's really important to get your body as healthy as it can be, before you think about trying to conceive again. That means getting your eating back to normal, and exercising without overdoing it. I am a firm believer that things happen when the time is right, so try not to stress out about running out of time. Easier said than done, I know. Again, focus on just making small and realistic changes, but please don't beat yourself up if you don't happen to lose 12kgs by April 25th. That will not make you a failure. Instead, think about how healthy your body is becoming, and not so much on the numbers. I honestly still believe that 2kgs a week over 6 weeks IS unrealistic... but you may lose some bigger numbers in the first couple of weeks into your plan, as that tends to be the case usually. Use this as motivation to continue eating well, but please don't get hung up on the 12kgs. Any loss is a step in the right direction
Take care of yourself.