A few days ago I spied an old thread with your name on it and I was sadden because I realised that it had been some time that you had posted here - and that can only mean that things weren't going well with you.
So I was very happy to see your new post...
The fact that you are coming at it again bodes well for you. Each time we get out of the corner and continue the good fight means that we get closer and closer to winning the match. Learn from your previous encounters and developing the skills honed from these experiences.
The battle of weight loss is the battle of the mind. Success comes through programming your mind to expect success.
The conditions of your life's circumstances are not reasons for failure or success.
Without adversity there is no measure of triumph.
I met a guy last Sunday from Zambia. Raised by his mother alone, one of seven children (three of them dying in childhood) in a leaky one room mud hut in one of the toughest areas of Zambia. he longed to read but the poverty was such that his mother's choice was either meagre food or an education...so of cause education wasn't an option for many years. Fortunately he was able to receive overseas sponsorship and was able to attend a school. This opportunity he grasped with both hands. After graduating he was so grateful to the school he volunteered to help. After a while he was found work at the school as a caretaker and janitor. Working faithfully, he was able to became a teacher's aid and eventually with further study, he became the Year 7 teacher. It was a humbling experience meeting him. Before I heard his story, someone told me he was in wonder of the great wealth of Australians and how huge their houses were. I dismissed it with a comment that along with the huge house was a huge mortgage. Then I heard about the one room leaky mud hut without a floor...and then I was ashamed.
We can always make a case for how bad things are for us.
What is more beneficial is not to use our circumstances as a crutch to support our failing.
The things in our life are what they are and shouldn't be used as an excuse for not winning out.
In my own case I could have easily sold myself out by allow my own circumstances to kneecap my success.
The chronic asthma, bad back, belly hernia, ingrown toenails, caring for aging frail parents, caring for family (wife and child), paying the bills, running a business, help run my local church and all that on the wrong side of fifty years with the task of having to lose 87 kilos - which was more than half of what I then weighed.
Each and every one of those things I could have used as an excuse. An excuse for fail or an excuse that it is all too hard.
But I told myself plainly...
"It is what it is - and it needs to be done - no matter what." There are those who look at things the way they are, and ask why... I dream of things that never were, and ask why not?
Robert Kennedy
Kim