Many of us have been at that point- just want to give up and throw it in. Many times I have sat down and thought why am I bothering? I may as well give up. But you should never give up just because of what someone said or does- at the end of the day they are not whats important you are- dont give in or they win and you should be the winner.
Take time out- sit down where no one will bother you for a while and just think about who you are, not on the outside but the inside- are you a strong person, do you want to be someone who gives up when times get tough or do you want to fight back and prove to youself you can do this. Decide on a plan of how to achieve your goal- when you can find time for exercise, what foods to eat, do you need to join a gym or will a home workout dvd be better...
Also think about why what your FIL said that really got to you and why- was it just what he said or was it that he did not believe in you or is it just his own weight issues- sometimes if a person is overweight and cant be botherd doing anything they put down anyone who is trying to change their life, my mother brushes it off like what I am doing is not important just because she wont try. Someone elses issues should never affect your plans. I also use that anger- I am determained to show my mum that it can be done, I can be thin and healthy and am hoping to inspire her to do the same- she does not put me down deliberatly, its just hard for her to see someone else succeed- i have accepted that and she no longer bothers me.
Now, once you have decided you are stong and you are a winner, get up, get into your workout clothes and get walking- take that first step which is always the hardest but the most important. Even if you only walk around the block it will get your head in the right place. Go through the cupboards and remove anything that goes against your plans- if its there for someone else, get them to put it away where you wont see it. Then go shopping and stock up on fresh fruit and veggies, lean cuts of meat, light snacks and maybe even some convenience frozen dinners- just chose the light ones like lean quisine, weight watchers ect..- these help for those times when you really dont want to cook or get home to late. Eventually I recommend cooking extras and freesing for those times- that way you know whats in it.
Just take it one day at a time. At the end of each day sit down and record everything that happened. I just finished doing that this week as I had hit a plateo and was not losing weight but after writing every single thing that happened and eat and drank I was in control and lost weight this week. Recording is essential. Also take some photoes of yourself- you dont have to show anyone but it will motivate you to keep going, visual reminders are great motivation and down the track you can look back and compare photoes- its amazing how this helps, looking in the mirror you might not see any difference but photoes dont lie.
Well I hope this helps, I wish you all the best and hope to be able to read all about your progress over time.
Start weight: 98kg April 2008
Next goal 75kg