Yes, I am a believer in honesty and oppenness. Well, not down to the telling him/her every miniscule thing you did that day - let's face it, I don't CARE how many times you went to the loo today - but for matters of importance. YES.
Now, sometimes people make bad bad mistakes. To me, the mistake is not the thing that will end the relationship. What ends the relationship is not dealing with it well (Hiding it, not understanding why it matters and not caring that it matters, blaming it on the other person when found out etc), or not learning from mistakes and repeating them. Both indicate a person who is not particularly fussed about what their partner thinks or feels, Is primarily focussed on their own needs and wants, and doesn't particularly mind hurting other peole in order to get those things. This, to me, is not someone I care to spend much time with. It is learning THAT about a person that would say to me, "time to move on honey"
Personally, I would rather spend time with someone who values me for who I am, cares about me and how I feel and would feel terrible if they hurt me (in any way, physical, emotional etc). Sure this person might hurt me by accident, misunderstanding, or in a very very troubled time (e.g if the relationship is rocky and everyone is het up - though physical abuse is never acceptable), but they will generally feel terrible about it, be accountable for it, learn from it, and generally deal with it in a grown up fashion. It would definitely NOT be a habit or pattern of behaviour.
And as for the issue of sporting teams, I have to say I deplore the attitude that 'what goes on tour sttays on tour'. It certaily wouldn't cut mch mustard with me. Far as I can see, the chlamydia, herpes, HIV, syphillys etc come back with you! Though perhaps the unplanned, 'inconvenient' pregnancies might stay there - for a while anyway.
But unfortunately I think it is an attitude that is oftne present. More's the pity.
35kg lost. (November 2005 - October 2006)
15kg gained again (as at October 2010).
Back to the drawing board - Let's do this thing!
"You can't change the winds, but you can change the sails"
"Reach out and take control of what lands in your lap"