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Postby help6363 » Thu Sep 20, 2007 7:11 pm

Hello :D

I have noted quite of you are studying. I was just wondering if you can all help me out with some advice.

Do people at uni constantly ask you for help with research, proof reading, readings and so forth? I encountered this problem when I did my first degree and so much time was wasted helping people. Now ...... years later and a much wanted career change, I have commenced uni full-time again....different course, different time, same problem. Does anyone else have this problem? How would you handle it if it happened to you? What would you say to the people?

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Postby MissE » Thu Sep 20, 2007 7:21 pm

Wow, I never have that problem and neither do any of my friends. And we are the 'smart' ones of our course...

Are you sure you arent kinda putting yourself out there a bit? Advising or correcting classmates is all well and good but leaves it open for them to ask for further help.

I'd be saying as nicely as possible 'I'm really sorry but I'm swamped with all my own gear but (I assume your lecturers are like mine and have set open door times each week) Prof Blahblah sees people at such and such a time, he/she is really great!'

Or maybe organise a bit of a study group with friends so that you get some benefit of it too?

Basically you just haveto say so. Say it as nicely as you can but if you dont have time, you dont have time and you cant let your own studies/life/family suffer to help them out... its not your job.
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Postby help6363 » Thu Sep 20, 2007 7:43 pm

MissE wrote:Wow, I never have that problem and neither do any of my friends. And we are the 'smart' ones of our course...

Are you sure you arent kinda putting yourself out there a bit? Advising or correcting classmates is all well and good but leaves it open for them to ask for further help.

I'd be saying as nicely as possible 'I'm really sorry but I'm swamped with all my own gear but (I assume your lecturers are like mine and have set open door times each week) Prof Blahblah sees people at such and such a time, he/she is really great!'

Or maybe organise a bit of a study group with friends so that you get some benefit of it too?

Basically you just haveto say so. Say it as nicely as you can but if you dont have time, you dont have time and you cant let your own studies/life/family suffer to help them out... its not your job.


Don't think I am advertising....... I am quite and would not really correct anyone in public, I think that can hurt people's self-esteem. If I ever felt the need to correct someone in public.... I would do it when nobody was around. I am really sensitive, so I tend to watch what I say and remain quiet a lot of the time.

Thanks for your advice, much appericated! :D
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Postby Butterfly_Dawn » Thu Sep 20, 2007 8:02 pm

I used to get it a lot in undergrad cause I was one of the 'smart' ones (not to blow my own trumpet). I never minded helping people out a bit, eg reading/word cutting essays (my specialty) explaining something etc, but if it was to be any more than the occasional thing or if one person kept coming back with obviously unresearched problems, I would be also telling them that I'm busy and perhaps try reading your text and if you still don't understand come and ask me a specific question.

Most lecturers won't answer questions that are answered in texts and notes and they get paid for it so neither should you!!
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Postby Ses » Thu Sep 20, 2007 10:44 pm

I never had this problem at undergrad level, but have at post-grad. If you really do not want to help just tell them you do not have the time. If you do not mind doing a bit, why not run a tutorial for the people who ask you the most??? This way you can help them learn to do it themselves....... Or suggest to the faculty that this seems to be a problem in thier teaching, and see if they will run the turorials......

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Postby Rustie » Thu Sep 20, 2007 10:59 pm

Im doing my study with Thomson Education Direct and dont have that problem cause im doing it by myself.. hehe
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Postby Bread-Monster » Thu Sep 20, 2007 11:33 pm

I have a lot of brilliant geniuses in my course. I go to them and I would learn more in 5 minutes than a whole semester worth of lectures. Usually they don't mind helping because these people are, as I say, genuine, 100% geniuses. They can find where you stuffed up your calculations in 2 seconds and explain to you in 3 minutes how to do the problem, the theory behind the solutions and extra hints in 2 minutes...

Problem is, they rarely turn up to uni because...well...they're geniuses.
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Postby hushpuppy » Fri Sep 21, 2007 10:55 am

i have not incounted to problem either but alas im just a quiet one who is shy . I guess u have to think of it as learning to say no . Wjen u are swamped with your own work as the other said just ask them to see the lecture andif the still have problem then make a time that suits u for u to get togther
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Postby HappyBella55 » Fri Sep 21, 2007 12:02 pm

hahaha I don't have this problem at all as I treat uni as a place to socialise and make friends but I take my studies very seriously too. No one has ever asked me for help...(wipes tear ...I'm going to miss uni when I'm done this semester)

A lot of my mates at uni were very surprised when I was awarded the honour of being a member in the golden key society (though an award it's not cos ya gotta pay for the membership :P ) because I'm one of those annoying ones that sit up in the back of the lecture theatre not really paying attention and having a chat :P

But yeah lecturers and tutors are really good with helping out - well I've found that. So maybe you can ask these people who come to you for assistance to go see the lecturer instead.
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Postby madeline » Fri Sep 21, 2007 12:08 pm

HappyBella55 wrote:hahaha I don't have this problem at all as I treat uni as a place to socialise and make friends


Amen to that. If someone asked me for help with their studies, they'd probably fail. :D
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Postby help6363 » Fri Sep 21, 2007 7:28 pm

Hey

Thanks for all your advice.

They mainly ask for help with time consuming work (ie: help with writing the assignment, proof reading, referencing and so forth)......
As many of you are probably aware lecturers and tutors do not help with this ....... saying NO is hard and I hate when I say it and people keep asking. It's a skill that I must learn to master but it's so hard!!!

Thanks for the advice, lovely gals :D
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