Im in two minds ....
I agree with you that society is REALLY
shallow. I guess that comes from other forums in our natural daily lives. EG. Media, TV, Magazines, Advertising, Marketing, Hollywood etc.
I mean really, what is normal ? What tool do we use to measure our weightloss ? change in dress size ? There is none ! Do we compare ourselves to Hollywood & Models ... I'd rather be overweight .... Do we compare ourselves in clothes .... too many inconsistencies & discrepancies in sizing.
There is no norm when it comes to weightloss or people commenting on ones journey, as different people have different views, beliefs and notions of what is "normal" & what is healthy.
I have lived with being compared to the superficialities all my life. I remember being bribed when I was in primary school... if you look like so and so from the young talent team, I'll buy you an entire new wardrobe, I'll get you treats, I'll get you whatever you want ... That used to shatter my self esteem, what don't u love or accept me the way I am ?
Even more recently when shopping for a wedding gown, I was even told to get out of a store as they don't cater for women "that big"
Why is it that all the bridal magazines show size 6 models, there's gorgeous, voluptuous brides out there that look 10 times better than those pictured
So what I go by now is my doctor's guidance, measurements and negotiated goals, when assessing what is healthy for me.
Having said all of that .............................................
I love it when someone notices any weight loss. As I have a lot of weight to lose, any small weight loss is not easily noticed. I'd have to lose 10 - 15 + kgs before anything will start to show.
I think we all crave some attention and recognition. Having these comments I know certainly boosts my self esteem and will power to keep on going. I think it's only human.
Gosh, Have I made any sense at all ?