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Postby bferbear » Tue Dec 11, 2007 6:39 am

I am having real difficulties in adjusting to socialising. I can stick to eating the right foods at home but I cannot find a single thing on the menu that I want to eat when out. Add to that I cannot stand watching everyone else around me enjoying a meal that I cant have and drinking beers I cant have, I find myself in a position of not wanting to socialise at all.
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Postby losebabyfat_2005 » Tue Dec 11, 2007 8:04 am

I suggest if you have one evening a week where you can eat and drink what you like instead of having a cheat meal during the day.


Not sure how helpful that is with all the events you are probably attending at this time of the year.... :roll:
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Postby rivenriver » Tue Dec 11, 2007 8:47 am

I think it depends on how often you socialise. If you go out every day, then clearly you need to work out how to do it. But if you go out once a week or less, then I think a beer or two and a not fantastic meal would be okay, provided you think of that as your treat for the week and be really good the rest of the time.

I reckon, so you don't feel left out, you should definitely have at least one beer. Maybe a light beer? Calorie king reckons beer has 72 calories/200mL glass, and light beer has 56. If you plan, you could definitely fit those in, especially when a glass of coke has 86 calories, and lemonade has 84. (Course, water or diet soft drinks have much less, but who says you have to ONLY drink them?) Drink a beer, then switch to water or diet soft drink.

As for the food, I'm in a similar situation most nights during term. Most lunches even. I live in a fully catered university college, so I can't cook for myself. Which means I have no control over what goes into my food. No low fat alternatives, no extra veggies, nothing. How do I get around that? (And I was loosing far more weight there than I am at home.) I gave myself a couple of sensible rules: Nothing deep fried, including chips. No pastry. No dessert. Always get veggies, unless they're really gross. I don't have to eat everything on my plate if I don't like it. No seconds. So, as long as my meal fit into those guides, I didn't worry about it, cos there was nothing I could do to change it, short of moving out, and there was no way I was gonna do that! I reckon you could adopt a similar idea. Like, when you're out, steer clear of the fish and chips, or the pies, but do get a hamburger or a steak or a curry or something. They're not that bad, especially if you watch yourself earlier in the day.

But really do keep up with the socialising. After all, if you've got no friends left, who's going to tell you how pretty you look when you're at your goal weight? Not to mention life would pretty much suck without your friends.

Hope that helps!
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Postby bferbear » Tue Dec 11, 2007 12:48 pm

I think I just had a case of the "poor me's" this morning. It was so frustrating to be a xmas party last night and being unable to eat anything at all. It was a buffet where everything was fried or roasted. Not one healthy option at all. Even the salads were full fat pasta salads, potato salads and coleslaw. I also had real difficulty in being around drunk people whilst not drinking. This is my first alcohol free xmas, so will be interesting to see how I go. I can't drink at all, I have alcohol related cardiomyopathy which has caused a lot of my weight gain.
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Postby help6363 » Tue Dec 11, 2007 12:53 pm

bferbear wrote:I think I just had a case of the "poor me's" this morning. It was so frustrating to be a xmas party last night and being unable to eat anything at all. It was a buffet where everything was fried or roasted. Not one healthy option at all. Even the salads were full fat pasta salads, potato salads and coleslaw. I also had real difficulty in being around drunk people whilst not drinking. This is my first alcohol free xmas, so will be interesting to see how I go. I can't drink at all, I have alcohol related cardiomyopathy which has caused a lot of my weight gain.


Buffets......OMG, know how you feel! We went to a buffet and there was not one healthy option, I was so depressed!

Good luck with your first alcohol free Christmas.

Chin up, it's gets easier....I promise :D

Let us know how you are going, K?
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Postby Guest » Tue Dec 11, 2007 1:16 pm

I understand how you feel, but in the end you have to think on yourself, and if you don't feel well, you have to stop doing what hurts you and do what makes you feel well
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Postby hysterical_oliver » Tue Dec 11, 2007 7:45 pm

I find if I'm out and the options are fairly horrible I still eat, but try to choose the better of two evils and then only eat a small portion. It seems to work well for me, I've never experienced a blow out the next day on the scales for it :wink:
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Postby SarahC » Thu Dec 13, 2007 9:29 am

That buffet sounds awful... I don't blame you for not eating anything! I am the same, I tend to avoid things like that, especially work morning/afternoon teas, lunches, bbq's things like that. Nine times out of 10 there's nothing I want to eat... and people are always telling me to eat!! So annoying!

Restaurants are usually okay though, there's always something acceptable, even if it's just a nice salad :)
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