Q1. How did you become so overweight in the first place?
It has just gradually happened over the years. I have never been particularly excercise concious and hate sport and everything related to it. So, with no exercise, and gettting older, giving up smoking, and having kids, the weight has just crept on until I have reached the point I am at now, whereby I am considered obese and very unhealthy.
Q2. What is the hardest part of being overweight?
There are so many 'hard parts'. The hardest though would be thinking my little girls are ashamed or embarrassed by me.. I know this isn't true, my little baby is too young, and Mikaela says often "It doesn't matter that you are fat Mum, I love you anyway". I just remember my Mum coming up to the school, the way she was dressed and the like and I remember wishing the ground would swallow me up. I want my girls to feel proud when I walk into their school. I kind of relate to that guy on the biggest loser who's little boy told him to wait around the block.
Q3.Would you consider surgery if it was offered for free, or if you could easily afford it?
Absolutely NOT. I have put myself into this mess, I will get myself out of it. I also think that surgery is a cheats way out....Overall, all that pain, needles and healing, I just don't feel that strongly about the way I look making me beautiful. I could never justify it. However, I would not judge or think badly of others who have done it. If I had big ears, or small eyes, or tiny breasts or a big ugly nose, I might feel differently, however my only problem is my weight, not my looks.
Q4.What are the most memorable comments people have made to you about your weight that you will never forget?
When I told my Mum I had hit 87kgs, she was so shocked I could hear her sigh over the phone.... then she just said "OH MY GOD LIV"...
I remember showing my husband a photo of me and my 4 sisters, and asking who was the best looking (loaded question I know), and he replied "I don't know who is the prettiest, but you're the biggest". I was shattered. He didn't mean it cruelly, he was just making an observation.... He doesn't care what size I am, however he is very, very fit, and has a gorgeous body, and I am sure he would be much happier if I was slim.
Recently, I went to a BBQ, and felt pretty good, I was all dressed up, had my face on, jewlerry, looked lovely. When I got up to get my lunch, a really large lady approached the table and gave me a smile... she leaned over and whispered "Us BIG girls have to stick together hey love!". I couldn't believe she thought I was 'big'.
My husbands Boss's wife has made many comments over the last several years, but probably the most memorable are...
In front of a group of Mothers at the school, that I had just met, she said "Liv's built for comfort, not for speed, aren't you Liv?!". I was so humiliated. I asked her how I looked one day when I was going out, and she commented "Very Elegant Liv, even overweight girls can look pretty".
Hardest of all, was when I was working a couple of years ago, this is when I was about 10kgs smaller than I am now. I went into this office supplies to buy some paper, and the lady behind the counter asked "When is the big day??"... At the time, I had just gotten a brilliant job, and thinking this is what she meant, I replied, "Oh, I start my job next Monday."... she looked confused, and it wasn't until I left the shop that it clicked that she meant "When is the baby due?"... OUCH
Q5.What do your freinds and family think of your weight?
My best freind and husband know how sensitive I am so they don't mention it... however, over the years, there have been many comments about diet and exercise in my direction. I have skinny sisters, who all play sport 3 times a week, go powerwalking and eat salads at restaurants. Let's just say, I don't fit in.