Hi Tanya. You need to put your foot down with your hubby. Tell him if you start picking up your little one that there is a large chance that you will cause some damage and end up back in hospital, and then he would have to help you longer!!! I'm actually quite surprised that he isn't being more understanding. And the same with your hubby Livie. My partner never really liked to change nappies. Certainly didn't mind the wet ones but if they were a pooey one then he really didnt want to do it. He told me that mother's can block that smell out!!!! hahaha. As for the rest of their care, well he didn't get up in the night for them, but I never asked him to because he had to go to work the next day. And he has always started work at around 6am so I figured that I could get some rest during the day but he couldnt. I started working when my daughter was 12 months old and I worked mainly weekends with a few days during the week when they were little, and he would look after the kids while I was at work on the weekends. I had a dear friend whom would look after them during the week, and half the time would never accept any money from me. So I worked it out and bought her things instead!!! So my partner had the kids pretty much every weekend. He wasn't, and still isn't, one for helping much in the house. But that's ok because he does everything outside. We started living together when I was 18 and he was 20 and we made a deal that I would do the inside stuff if he did the outside stuff. I'm not into gardening and things, so he accepted that. He is also the youngest of 8 kids, with 4 sisters whilst growing up!!! So he really didn't have to help much inside the house. And he went straight from his mother's place to us living together, so I sort of think I made a rod for my own back with not making him do the dishes and things!!! I guess the worse thing for me is that he doesn't pick up after himself, and the kids slip into that habit every now and then. So I firmly kick them up the backside(not literally mind you!) and make them pick up. They have to tidy their own rooms, they even vacuum them. It gets much easier as the kids get older. But as far as looking after them when they were little, he never complained about that. I'm sure he probably got fed up at times, but I certainly had the care of them the bulk of the time. And child number 2 was entirely his idea as I was sticking to the 1 only theory!!! So I guess he thought he better not complain too much. Plus she adored him, still does. I guess it's what you call Daddy's little girl! She is always outside doing things with him. Follows him around like a lost sheep. Whereas Alex doesn't tend to do that. Loves to go and do things like fishing etc with him but would rather sit on his bum inside reading a book or watching tv etc. HHHMMM more like me in my manner!!! anyway I am way off track here. I think Tanya you just have to sit down and explain to him that your little girl is part of you both and every now and then the care needs to be shared. You want her to have a good relationship with her father. Not one of those kids that hardly sees their father, or mother in some cases.