Thank you all very much for all your advice and support. It has taken a while to realise what my husband is really like but I have talked to him and he hasn't even asked for censored since. He's been quite nice to me and starting to treat me right and the way he used to pretty much all the time. Our relationship has been rocky for a while because he's been unemployed for 9 1/2 months and we've been together nearly 3 years (3 years on june 12th) and I'm realising what he needs to do to change because I' m rebuilding my self-esteem and learning to be a better housewife (why shouldn't he chnge if I'm chnging myself for the better).
I've talked to my mum about what I told you all and she is also very supportive and has some of the same advice as you have.
One thing that doesn't help is I fell out with his mum nearly a month ago and haven't seen her since, just polite chat on the phone. And he knows I don't like her now, she's bossy, domineering and treats me like I'm still 13 and she's my Mum. The only person in his family that I like is one of his nana's who used to be our landlord. She treats me with respect, she listens to me without giving heaps of overbearing opinion and did I mention she actually LISTENS to me instead of bulldozing over me.
Sorry for ranting I just had to tell somebody.