We are here to listen to you Tanya. This site is not just about weight loss, but about listening to other people. Sometimes just typing what you are feeling makes you understand yourself so much better. Give your partner time to change. You will find that he will change over the time. Well most of them do anyway. But you can't force that change. Being unemployed is most likely very very hard for him to accept. He's not bringing home the bacon so to speak so he probably feels he can't support his family. For a man that is very hard to take. If you can go and get some sort of councilling then it would be a great idea. He may not accept it tho, so you will need to be prepared for that. I do hope things work out for you. I'm glad your mother is supportive. That is very important. And don't worry about his family too much. Just do things with your own family and try to stay away from his. Be polite and show them some respect but don't put yourself in the position for them to put you down, if you can help it. You are a good person Tanya, and don't let them make you think otherwise. Look at what you have accomplished with your weight loss and having a beautiful child. You can do anything you put your mind to. It's important that you have a good self-esteem. You want to bring your child up to have a good self-esteem as well. It's so important to be happy and confident. As you get older you will see how you can avoid situations that put you on edge. It's all about learning the hard way, unfortunately. Be strong and confident about yourself. And remember to smile and that there is always someone in a worse predicament than yourself somewhere in the world.