Yeah.. tStrawberry the pressure just gets too much doesnt it. .. thats great you are looking at it differently now.. Im doing the same as you.. the pressure was just making me feel like a failure and i HAD to find a different approach before i exploided!
I agree.. No more restictions, no more do's and don'ts .. just balance.
With the re-programming, yeah i guess it is thinking. So just by changing from Restrictions , do's and don'ts and full on excersize routines to new thoughts such as having a regular sized coffee instead of a large and still enjoying it. Going for a walk because its a nice day, or going for a walk becasue its a cold winter night and just the elements on my face make me feel like im alive and live on this amazing planet. Not buying biscuites becasue i WILL eat them all. I just know that i will. I have tried to over come that and ive tried to not buy them but then i forget and i buy them again and i pig out and then feel miserable. But now, I just know that i cannot buy them. Simple. That pattern is now set. Hope im making sense. So i can still EAT them.. at friends places or whatever. It's not a NO. Its a change of patterning.
Just by realising the FIRST action that then causes the following act i.e buying pack of biscuits then eating them all..followed by the terrible feeling..
Take that FIRST action out of the equation. Simple. ANd no excuses. No more, "i have to buy them coz i have friends coming over" or "the kids like them" Just no. They are just excuses.
PLus, i am also now saying to myself, I dont binge. I just dont.
I was never an AWARE Binger. I always started off by just wanting to taste everything i bought at the supermarket when i got home.. and before i knew it i had got through nearly all of the crap and opened everything available to eat.. of course it then continues becasue to stop means you have to face the damage done. So now i question WHY i want to eat something.. look at where abouts in the day i am for dinner or luch or whatever and allow a snack if its inbetween meals or just have lunch if its nearer to lunch time.
ANd .. i knwo i'm babbling but i really want to pass on this knowledge.. one more VITAL thing i've learnt... well. . 2 more things..
1. Not to make Weight the biggest pleaser or upsettter in my life
2. Not to make food the most exciting part of the day or the most exciting part of catching up with friends to pig out with etc..
Just those two things are major keys to my change in thought.