Ive just been reading through quite a lot of this site, and the more i read, the sadder i see the thought patterns of many people, in particular ladies.
Comments like " Me looking yuk at 86kg" or "i cant wait to be beautiful" at the start of a diet, are just a couple of the sad comments i have read.
Ive also noticed that there doesnt seem to be a whole lot of men on this forum, the few of us that are here are waaaaay outnumbered by women. This is obvious by the boys club section of the forum that hasnt been contributed to in almost 3 months. So i thought i would take it upon myself to set some of you women straight in regards to being overweight.
Overweight women are not Yuk, and not all slim women are beautiful either. Being size12 alone doesnt make a person beautiful!!
True beauty comes from the inside...deep deep down, well beyond your body shape and the colour of your skin, or the glasses you wear, or the style of shoes you wear etc...
Many misunderstangs are born, when shallow, narrow minded men single out the skinny women, leaving the overweight women to feel "yuk" or "un-beautiful".
Some men are like this, they are shallow, just like some women are also very shallow for the same, or similiar reasons. If you ask me, a mans exceptance is only skin deep if he is willing to only date a girl based on her shape.
As an overweight man myself, i simply would not have anybody in my circle of friends that couldnt except my body size or shape. I dont want friends that are that shallow. I have quite a few friends, and i chose them carefully. None of my friends would ever chose a partner based on size because i wouldnt befriend anybody like that.
My old girlfriend from a few years back was 114kg, and too embarassed to even take her shirt off infront of me, which i thought was very sad. Her ex-husband had nitpicked her about her weight for the 9 or 10 years they were together making her paranoid. Sadly she will probably be sensitive about her weight for the rest of her life now.
My wife is about a size 18 and i love her to death. We take photos together, go hunting and fishing together....and even fight together like most married couples. I would like to see her lose a bit of weight after our second child is born later this month for health reasons, and health reasons only. Certainly not because she is "not beautiful" or "yuk".
I think people who have lost weight, and then refer to there old bodies as "back when i was yukky" sets the pace for a low self esteem for all of the people that are still that size or bigger.
Its time everybody, girls in particular stopped thinking of themselves as yuk.
A yukky person is the idiots i saw on the news last night that smashed a heap of headstones at a local cemetary. I dont know whether they were overweight or not, but they are certainly yuk.
Or the local school teacher that has just been charged with having thousands of child pornograpy photos on his computer. THATS YUK!!!!!
So come on girls, its excellent that you are wanting to lose weight, for all number of reasons, from self esteem, presentation to living a healthier lyfestyle and everything in between.....but in the meantime, you are certainly not bad people for being overweight...NOOOOOO way!!! If you are beautiful when you thin down, then you must of been beautiful before.