well put it this way, if you think your partner, family member or mate is unhealthy and overweight its nice to think that you recognise that and realise theyre jeopardising their health. i have a couple of friends who are big like i was and its not that im disgusted in them, but im concerned for their health. i just got one of my friends to join the tf program because she had tried ww but put all the weight back on. she is doing so well and now i know that she is getting healthier and happier to spend time with her kids. im so proud of her. a lot of my other friends have low self esteem and are so self conscious i think it would break their hearts if i said anything to them. they dont know ive started losing weight though but when i see them around xmas if they mention it ill say something like 'its wonderful to be healthier and feel better about myself, if i can do it anyone can!' i suppose its just being in the right frame of mind. ive said to kim before, 'why didnt i think of doing this sooner?' but i realise that i wasnt in the right frame of mind or motivated enough.