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Postby sandradee » Thu Nov 04, 2010 5:05 pm

The other day a couple of my friends asked me to go down the beach, I said no simply because I am ashamed of how I look (ie: I am covered in a mountain of fat). Just wondering if anyone avoid going places because of their weight gain???

Re: Avoiding??

Postby e&me » Thu Nov 04, 2010 5:17 pm

I try not to let it stop me, but if I have to get down into next to nothing then I avoid it!
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Re: Avoiding??

Postby Sanov22 » Fri Nov 05, 2010 8:17 am

Yup. I avoided any situation involving bathers. I feel better now... But I'd still have hang ups about a crowded beach for example... Fake tan helps some.
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Re: Avoiding??

Postby Carly :) » Fri Nov 05, 2010 11:19 pm

Yes Sandradee, I even said no to going to the movies, even if no one was going to be looking at me
sitting in the dark cinemas. And i have said no to a romantic dinner with my partner because i felt uncomfortable
and didnt feel like dressing up. some days i just felt frazzled and would get frustrated when i couldnt order
a salad. A lot of restaurant foods are quite high in fat and the PORTION sizes are quite large.

What we need to realize is that it is a good thing to get out and go to the beach, or to the movies or wherever,
otherwise the self esteem is low and we end up feeling even worse. it can actually cause destructive patterns, socially, mentallyv amd emotionally
but yeah ive been there and felt low due to my appearance :/ i think overall, it feels good to be in control, and when you are not in control
of your weight or the way you look or feel, it can be hard to want to go out.
If that makes sence, think i rambled on lol.
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Re: Avoiding??

Postby Butterfly_Dawn » Mon Nov 08, 2010 9:02 am

I used to. I used to avoid anything associated with exercise because I would puff and I was sure that people would be looking at me thinking "look at that fat chick who can't even walk without puffing". It was to the extent that on a bushwalk which I had been told was "a 30min flat walk" but was up a hill, I threw an actual tantrum. Literally. I was yelling at my now hubby that he just took me on this walk to embarass me with people everywhere :oops: Sheesh, I was such a loser.

Then I realised no-one really gave a toss, they were all off in their own worlds worrying about what to have for lunch or if they'd left the iron on or something. The occasional person would be an ass, but then you get that in anything. That realisation was the start of my serious weight loss because I could actually go out and do the work I needed to do to lose the weight. Long story short, I now quite happily exercise and sweat and puff away and couldn't care less.
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Re: Avoiding??

Postby sandradee » Mon Nov 08, 2010 7:23 pm

Thank you everyone for your replies :D

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