I am currently studying part time, doing a diploma of counselling and communication. I am nearly finished, and have only 6 assignments to go before I am a qualified Counsellor
I am currently a stay at home Mum, and run my own home business (PM me if you are interested in finding out more
As for the whole baby deal, I have 2, Mikaela who is now 6, and Tara who is 20 months.
I also had bad midwife experiences.
The first time, the midwife told me to "Stop whinging and breathe", God, I was so pissed off, I asked her if she had kids and of course she said NO!! How the heck would she know what I was going through, how DARE she speak to me like that! Then, when I was learning to breast feed (by the way, I got the hang of it, I breastfed Mikaela until she was 2.5), this one nurse kept squeezing my nipples really hard, trying to get milk out to put on the baby's lips. She was REALLY hurting me!! The baby was screaming her lungs out, as if she was going to just latch on. I ended up sticking up for myself at the end, and telling her to stop, and that we weren't getting anywhere, that she was just upsetting me and the baby, and to LEAVE US ALONE!!! She walked off in a huff, and when she did I settled Mikaela and she fed no problem.
My second labour (much fresher in my mind) I had this huge gorilla like midwife, who kept yelling at me like I was totally deaf, because I was so upset. She kept talking to me like I was an imbicile, and I couldn't fight back because I was just in agony! She kept saying that I had 'hours' to go, and that I should get used to the pain because there would be alot more of it!! Showed absolutely no caring or compassion whatsoever. It ended up I was in fact 10cms dialated and ready to push!! Stupid woman!! I also remember her quite roughly wrenching my legs apart having a look at the baby. God, I hated her at the time! I did write a letter of complaint, but my sister who is a nurse told me it was really a waste of time, so I didn't bother sending it.
They didn't try and teach me to feed this time, as I was 30 years old, and not taking anyones crap!!! I think they sensed that
I have 2 sisters who are nurses, 1 who is a midwife. She is much older than me, and also has quite a callous 'get over it' way about her, just no understanding or compassion for others.
I wonder why these women are so totally rude and horriable to the woman they are meant to be nurturing????