I went to a buffet for lunch the other day, and had a lovely meal. Mind you, it is probably a little easier for me, because I have been on this new lifestyle journey for over 3 years now, so it was MUCH easier for me to avoid the foods that I KNEW my system simply wouldn't react well too. It has been so long since I have had greasy, creamy, fried etc... foods that I know that I would have an upset stomach for ages if I even considered eating it. It may be worth you perhaps getting into that same mind-frame. Just tell yourself during the night that you are 'allergic' to most of the foods there. Basically, that is what I tell myself now. My body is kind of allergic to the foods because I certainly don't get a good reaction when I eat them.
So, I ended up having two full plates of food for the main part of the meal. That may sound like a lot to most people, but I made sure that most of my plate was covered with fresh salad (first plate) and steamed vegetables (second plate) before I added some steamed fish or chicken, and a little plain roast beef (no gravy). I decided on the beef because I don't eat red meat much at all, simply because I prefer chicken and fish, and I felt that my body could do with a little extra iron at the time. I looked for salad and vegetables with little or no dressing, which reduces the calories SO much. The good thing about having mostly salad and veggies is that you can still take a long time to eat - like the other people - but you are consuming FAR fewer calories than they are. People often look at the amount I eat and comment that it is a lot, but then I remind them that my enormous salad is still a LOT healthier and has far fewer calories than their meat pie/pizza/creamy pasta... etc... They kind of shut up after that.
To finish the meal I had a small bowl of dessert. I had mostly fresh fruit, with a couple of little 'extras' to satisfy my sweet tooth. I had a small piece of strawberry flan and a very small portion of strawberry mousse.
The entire meal was simply delicious and I didn't feel as though I missed out on anything at all. There was lots of seafood there, but I don't eat most seafood, so I didn't bother with that, although that is definitely a good choice if it isn't smothered in sauces.
I was probably a little overly full afterward the meal, but that feeling didn't last long and I was just comfortably full for the rest of the afternoon. I honestly felt as though I got my money's worth, although it was less than $30 for each of us, which is a MUCH better deal than it sounds as though you are getting. We went to Burswood censored for this meal too, so it wasn't just some cheap restaurant. I would certainly want something extremely special for $65 a head!
To be honest, I think it is rude of anyone to expect people to pay that much for their birthday dinner. If you want to go out with your own partner and pay that much, fine, but don't expect other people to be willing to do the same. Would it be possible to discuss alternatives with the brother-in-law?
Anyway... I just wanted to let you know how I survived the buffet. It IS possible to still eat quite a lot, and to not just pick at a small amount of food, but you have to be willing to eat your veggies before you get your 'treats'.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
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