I thought I would put this thread up as my husband and I have been discussing it over the last few days.
On the weekend we were invited to a friends childs first birthday party. Now this friend is from a very "successful" family. That is...they are all very financial, all fit and healthy and have a great outlook on life (completely the opposite to either of our families).
It was a BBQ dinner and the thing I noticed immediately was that there were only very minimal nibblies on the tables. I mean I noticed this as I was starving and all I could think of was..."Hurry up and cook the food so I can eat my small piece of steak and salad".
It was like...they were all there to talk and catch up...and the food was just incidental!!!
All our lives...any family gathering was centred around the food...what the food was...how long it would take to get ready...how it tasted...and the stuffed feeling you have afterwards that makes you want to go and sleep for a few hours.
But the thing that stood out was...while my family would have been hoeing into all the chips and lollies and dips...these people were having a drink and all standing around discussing property opportunities, holiday plans, work and business stories and new additions to their families. It was like I stepped into the Twilight Zone...do do do do do do do do!!!
Cause I can guarantee you that our families would have been all sitting down...eating chips, dips, cheese, lollies, etc...the people over 40 would be complaining of their many ailments and making excuses why they can't get out and make the most of their lives...and all of us under 40 would have been rolling our eyes at those over 40...piling the food into our mouths to stop ourselves from telling them what we really all thought...while we sat there whinging about how our overweight, non-inspiring parents gave us nothing to work with in regards to healthy eating, financial security, relationships and any inclination to want to bring new additions into the world!!!
Not that we are going to follow in their miserable footsteps...we are trying so hard to be an inspiration to all of our family members...especially those our age and younger (sometimes I think the older ones in our families are too far gone...they are all so used to playing the victim and blaming others for their predicament).
But it was like a light bulb went on in our heads when we were sitting there at this first birthday party...
Is this how all the "normal" people live
We have organised a family party this weekend to celebrate Easter...and for the first time we are gonna take frisbees and balls and we are gonna get out and encourage all those who want to participate to get off their backsides and do some moving.
We are taking lean meat and are only taking enough to satisfy rather than stuff everyone. We are going to supply salad and no salad dressing and are putting little bundles of eggs together for everyone. Not the usual massive chocolate indulgence Easter is in our families.
And there will be no bread!!! If anyone complains (which I'm sure they will) they will know that from now on...if they desperately need bread they can bring it themselves.
I will not sit there and listen to all the "woe is me" stories...as soon as they start I will change the topic to a more positive one or get up and go play some beach sport with someone.
I know I can't change my family...but after seeing what other families do when they get together...I am adamant that I will not facilitate the negativity in mine anymore!!!
A long story I know...what are other peoples family gatherings like? I am interested to know!!!
Thanks for reading...