My family gatherings usually have a mixture of food and other stuff.
I was really surprised and found it very hard to get used to my hubby's family as they literally sit down at the table for every meal. Even when they are away at their beach house.
My experience of being on holiday was get out of the house and eat if your hungry, but never cook a proper meal unless it's BBQ. Food was secondary to everything else.
Hubby's family have a sit down lunch and a roast dinner etc etc etc... I found it so hard becasue I was holiday and just wanted to go out!
I organised an annual family gathering for my extended family and we bought a massive rope to have a tug of war and footballs, cricket stuff, frisbies etc. It was the best day and food was really not the major part of the day.
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