sorry tara, i missed this thread first time around!
i was wondering if you use calorieking at all? they have a 'university' that goes through a whole load of issues surrounding weight/overeating/using food an an emotional tool/exercise/body image etc. i've found it really useful in helping me look at some of the issues around my eating (not that i'm a poster girl for getting things right by any stretch - i go two steps forward, one back!!lol)
also, i find that if i'm feeling icky, i try and force myself to exercise - it takes my mind off wanting to eat & also gives me those lovely endorphins that make me feel so much happier! then at least if i still feel hungry or whatever, i've exercised first.
maybe another thing is to keep a diary and write down how all these things make you feel and look at what things you can control and change...and what things are totally out of your control. maybe that's a way to work through some of them without eating?
hope it all gets better soon