I am a newbie to this website. But I hope that one day I will be an oldie and that I havent had yet another lightbulb moment that will fade within a day or two.
I am a mum to two kids under the age of two. So i am kept busy with them, and as a result, rather than make myself nutritous meals during the day, I tend to snack on rubbish like biscuits, etc when I get the chance.
Here's a bit of background on me...
When I moved in with DP I weighed 63kg (I am 170cm tall) and that was quiet a good weight for me. Over the next few years I slowly but surely ballooned to 85kg. One month before I fell pregnant (after a looooong time trying) with my first daughter, I joined a gym and went down to 79kg. By the day I had her, I weighed 102kg (I think i confused pregnancy with a reason to eat). Within the few days after I had her, I had lost 12kg (I had alot of fluid retention also). I lost a few kilograms between then and when I fell pregnant with my second daughter, but by 12wks pregnant with her, I was already back to 90kg. And I weighed exactly the same the day I had her - 102kg. I only lost 5kg in the days after i had her, and I lost 2kg on weight watchers about 1 month ago, so I now weigh 95kg. Like every other diet I tried between my 2 pregnancies, and before either of them (Tony Ferguson, Weight watchers, Lite n Easy), I had trouble sticking to it. I have an extreme sweet tooth.
So with my failed attempts at previous diets, Im not sure exactly where I should start this time. I think I fail at them because I dont like to feel restircted. And I found that they all made me feel that way- Tony ferguson especially!
In the last week I have been trying to turn down things I would normally have. And I have been trying to cut back on extra's like sauces, etc. Although, I do have to admit, I have not been very good at it.
I think that I need to take slow steps to change my lifestyle, so I probably do know where to start. But I find it REALLY REALLY dificult, and I guess I am looking for tips on ways to make it easier.
I appreciate ANY feedback, especially harsh criticism lol. That tends to make me think "Holy crap! I have to do something!"
(I think I may have just rambled on a bit - or alot! But thanks for reading
I am new too!
I calorie count because I can add treats each day! I cannot stand going without my treats.... hehehehe.
Anyway....... here is some of my advice. It's what I learnt, since we are all NOT made from the same blueprint it may or may not be useful to you! Hope it is of some help!
The preparation stage
In life we seem to prepare for everything: career, starting a family, marriage and so forth. When it comes to weight loss, a lot of people simply just state that’s it and do not preparation what-so-ever. To be successful we must prepare: not preparing is preparing for failure!
How does one prepare?
1. Set well defined goals
What are your goals? These can be changed and they probably will. However, you need something to work towards. Remember to write down why it is important to YOU to change these goals!
Your goals don’t need to be related to just the number on the scales or a dress size. For instance, one of my goals is to enter into a slimming magazine competition when I reach my goal weight. Allow yourself to dream.
Write down your goals:
2. Know thy self!
We spend so much time asking other people how they feel and trying to work them out, let’s do the same for ourselves. What problems do you normally encounter? How will you overcome these problems?
One of my biggest problems is binge eating. To solve this problem, I keep a journal with the aim of trying to figure myself out. Here’s what I do: write down when I feel like binge eating and what I feel like eating. I can look over this at a later date. When I have analysed myself and my actions I came to the realisation that I like to eat greasy food when I am stressed, chocolate when I am grumpy and so forth. Now you just need to replace the habit with something else. Can you drink water when you are stressed instead of reaching for the greasy food? Make strategies that will work for YOU!
This may take some practice! Hence, just get back on the horse if you do slip up….. it’s really not the end of the world!
3. Social support
We all need help sometimes! Social support can come in many different forms: friends, the Internet, groups. Find what works for you.
Once again this may take some research!
4. A contract
Draw up a contract: in which you promise to fight this battle and win! This way you are holding yourself accountable.
5. Relax and enjoy the journey
Many people focus on the final outcome but just enjoy the journey. Each day will present itself with new challenges and along the way you will learn new skills to deal with these challenges. This journey is going to change you…… it’s pretty amazing what you are able to do, don’t you think?
6. Planning to exercise
If you are anything like me, you would have no idea about what exercise you like. Again this is self discovery, find out what you like. Go to different places and try new things. Remember you are learning about you! You are worth the effort.
Sometimes barriers just get in our way. Brainstorm about if there are any barriers in your way before you attempt this. If there are barriers that present problems, then try to sort them out.
8. What works for you?
There are millions of diets, gimmicks and so forth. I personally follow calorie counting because it works for me. Research until you find a strategy for weight loss that works for you. Make sure it is healthy and will ensure that your new eating plan helps you to maintain an optimum level of health.
Jumping on the Internet for just an hour a day could be your research!
9. Staying motivated
Each time I used to commence a diet, I would start with enthusiasm and then a week later quit! We need strategies to keep us motivated. What motivates you?
Here’s what I did: I broke my main goal into mini goals and then made up rewards for myself each time I reached a mini goal. Rewards can be anything: soap, bubble bath, holiday, a special outing and so forth. Yes, you could give yourself these things anytime but why not work towards them?
Know your self, what motivates you? How will you keep yourself motivated? Work out strategies that will work for you!
STAGE 2 The doing stage
I think this is the toughest part.
Keeping on track – journal it!
Keeping a journal is great! You could include pictures of yourself as you go through your weight loss journey. It’s great for when you look back and think to yourself…. ‘hey I am pretty amazing, look at what I have done!’ You could record your food intake, thoughts and feelings and so forth. This is a record of your own unique weight loss journey.
Water helps to decrease the appetite and will help your skin to glow! Try to drink at least 6-8 glasses a day. For me that was a MAJOR challenge.
Finding it all too much?
If you are finding it all too much then you could write out a timetable. I did this at the start because I could not fit in time to exercise. Also, I have designed and stuck to a timetable when I was unemployed to ensure that I had structure in my life. For my structure is very, very important. Other people simply do not need it!
Almost everyone hits a plateau. I hate them; the dreaded plateau annoys me so much! They annoy me because I am working and not seeing any results! Arrrggghhhh…. Plateaus!!!! There are so many things that you can do! Once again research. Here’s how I have overcome plateaus:
Drink more water
Vary my exercise routine
Watch my calories (write everything down!)
Change the types of food I am eating - still sticking with the correct number of calories
Eating six small meals a day has helped me to stay on task. It ensures that I am never really hungry and never really full. Also, I believe it helps the metabolism!
Stepping it up!
Exercise goals also needed to be reviewed. I started exercising by walking, I know go the gym. I participate in cardio and weight training. Weight training is great: I only used the machines, as I do not like the free weights.