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I'm not saying No anymore!

Postby MissE » Thu Oct 04, 2007 12:49 pm

i had an epiphiny last night when a girl i work with invited me out for Yum Cha when we knocked off, and I went to say No. She said 'if you keep saying no, we will stop inviting you'. I realised that I've let my weight loss override sooo much, for so long. I can remember so many times when I've missed out because 'I'm on a diet' and then gone on to gorge myself on 'bad' food on my own down the track.
So, I'm not saying no anymore. I spend alot more time not doing social things than doing them, so if I'm good when I'm not out with friends, then not saying no when I am will balance out. It might take longer, but dammit, I'm sick on not doing things like 1am yum cha with workmates because of the scales.
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Postby sassi » Thu Oct 04, 2007 1:05 pm

i think that's a great attitude - it is important to maintain a balance & still be able to enjoy yourself & spend time socialising.

i love a good epiphany :D
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Postby shelbel » Thu Oct 04, 2007 2:52 pm

That is a great attitude!! Dont let your weight loss journey take over your life!! :D
Im sure you'll be sensible about it too as so many food places have healthier choices nowadays too
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Postby Sassygirl » Thu Oct 04, 2007 3:01 pm

I quite often say NO to invitations because I feel like a big fat whale - so good on you. I am now trying to say yes - but it is hard!
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Postby Chelle » Thu Oct 04, 2007 4:40 pm

Gald that you went out & great attitute too. Just because we all are watching our weight dosnt have to ruin our lives when it comes to going out everynow & then with friends. Just try to make sensible food choices if you go over well at least you had a fun time.
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Postby Sussy » Thu Oct 04, 2007 4:59 pm

Hey Sassygirl,
i'm the same as you, i've missed out on so much coz I feel too fat to go out and think everyone will just be thinking about how much weight i've put on.
I think you should go out too Miss E, you've achieved such great success, SHOW IT OFF, and let everyone marvel at your dedication and hot new bod....one outing to YUM CHA won't hurt and you'll really love it, not just for the food but for the company, laughter and socialising you'll do...besides if you do go, you don't HAVE to have anything, or you could go halves with someone in a dish, choose the least calorie filled dish or just be a lil more careful with what you eat the next day. GO OUT AND LIVE LIFE otherwise what's the point?..... :D
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Postby Mark » Thu Oct 04, 2007 7:32 pm

Weight is not everything, a meal or two won't matter :)
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Postby onmyway » Thu Oct 04, 2007 8:58 pm

I was saying 'no' too, but when I finally went out, I had lots of fun and I got to show off my results in nice clothes. It helps me feel motivated to keep going with the weight loss, so that I can enjoy myself even more. This also gives me a chance to treat myself, so I might have dessert and I enjoy it sooooo much more, because it's a rare treat.

I usually try to go dancing during the outing, then I burn off the calories that I ate. Also, I still make healthy choices, just because you're out with friends, doesn't mean it has to be a blow out!

Go out and have fun!
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Postby Fireball » Fri Oct 05, 2007 1:49 am

MissE you are so right you shouldn't miss out all the time. I only realised lately that I have spent much of the last 20 years thinking about food.. what can I eat, what to prepare, what I ate, what I feel like eating, feeling gulity, feeling elated - briefly. I am sick of hearing myself say, "I'm on a diet" and as you said, bingeing later. If it wasnt for the fact that so many people are unsuccessfully "dieting" people would think it was balmy for an overweight person to constantly talk like that but apparently not do anything to change it. The trick is to go out but maintain a thoughful approach - consider the energy intake and practise portion control. The trouble starts when the"what the hell I've stuffed up my diet anyway" excuse takes over and it is an excuse we can resist. I have worked long hours and ended up having takeaway 5 times this week and but not put on any weight. I'm not happy with myself agreeing to the opt out of having takeaway all those nights :oops: , but at least I didn't go crazy and stuff myself as well.

It is all little mind games we are playing with ourself.
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Re: I'm not saying No anymore!

Postby help6363 » Fri Oct 05, 2007 1:07 pm

MissE wrote:i had an epiphiny last night when a girl i work with invited me out for Yum Cha when we knocked off, and I went to say No. She said 'if you keep saying no, we will stop inviting you'. I realised that I've let my weight loss override sooo much, for so long. I can remember so many times when I've missed out because 'I'm on a diet' and then gone on to gorge myself on 'bad' food on my own down the track.
So, I'm not saying no anymore. I spend alot more time not doing social things than doing them, so if I'm good when I'm not out with friends, then not saying no when I am will balance out. It might take longer, but dammit, I'm sick on not doing things like 1am yum cha with workmates because of the scales.


Well done!

I just realised I am doing the same thing...... thanks for posting, it's given me insight into my behaviour! YOU ARE GREAT! :D
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Postby dietcoke » Sat Oct 06, 2007 12:52 am

There's this excellent show on foxtel (Discovery Home & Health) called "How to live longer" and they talk about a person's biological age. Your biological age takes into account your diet, level of activity, stress AND social/family life. They analyse a person's lifestyle having no idea of their "real" age and give them a number (eg. a person may be told their biological age is 52 based on various tests). The person may actually be only 38 but their lifestyle is aging them causing lots of different health problems. ANYWAY why I'm waffling on about it is because social interaction and close relationships play a HUGE part on your emotional and physical health. One result of this could be say emotional eating or lacking the will to exercise and a "what's the point?" kind of attitude.

I know it may sound like a lot of waffle (which I hope made some sense) but I know I didn't realise how much impact friends and family have on you health.

Anyway here's the link to the website. It doesn't have as much info as the show though.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/tv_and_radio/live_longer/
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