I'm curious to know how those of you who have lost large amounts of weight feel about yourselves past and present. I lost 35kg+ and have maintained it for nearly 2 years, but I have quite a few issues with my self-perception now. Is there a "healthy" way to think about how you used to be overweight?
For example, a few weeks ago a friend of mine referred to a stranger as "that fat woman" and I was surprised by how much it upset me personally. How do you deal with that kind of thing? Should it still be personal?
I find it very difficult to know that people who like me now would have had trouble respecting me a few years ago. Can you accept that there was something "wrong" with yourself back then, and/or do you see yourself as a different person then and now? I don't really know how to reconcile the fact that I am the same girl with the fact that now I am seen as a better person in almost every aspect.
I'm proud of myself and what I managed to do, but sometimes I feel like I sold out, or stabbed my larger self in the back. It's like I acknowledged that I wasn't good enough... even though apart from the weight, I haven't actually changed very much since then. Was being fat really a personal (or even moral) failing?
Should I look down on or reject who I used to be?
Any input about how to look at this would be really appreciated.