The only way to see your muscles is by losing the fat covering them, unfortunately, but if you're wanting to draw in your more flabby areas and start feeling your muscles, then sucking in as you do aerobic exercises or dancing (or rebounding) is helpful, also using very light weights and generally tensing, holding and releasing the muscles you can while you exercise.
I'd still stick to focusing on fat loss at the moment, and perhaps invest in a rebounder, which helps bring a bit of tone to your muscles when you work out on it. Their general weight limit is around 300lbs, or roughly 136kg. It's fantastic for lymphatic flow, too
I found out about the rebounders benefits about a week ago and im thrilled with it, so i think it would definately be worth a go.
If you have any questions then I'm happy to answer what I can