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Postby Bread-Monster » Sat Oct 06, 2007 8:45 pm

I love going to the gym with my friends, it's a great motivation, but sometimes it's a bit..well..unproductive.

Is it selfish of me? But it just seems like these gym sessions are socialising sessions. We would do most of the machines together. We'd all sit in one row in the gym doing a certain machine, and I'm always at the end because I try to get as much exercise done as I could. Sometimes I would join in and speak but I like raising my heart rate to 170 and pushing until I can barely stand. I haven't been running in a while because none of my friends like the treadmill, and if I go by myself I would feel like a loner and they would think I was anti social. Curses.

I like lifting weights. I love doing free weights, not those crappy machines. I like doing curls, dips, bench presses, push ups, sit ups, chin ups, but my friends would rather stay upstairs where all the machines and cardio machines are. Weight machines are stupid because they don't work out your stabilizing muscles and they won't train your nerves to respond properly, so in the end all those muscles would just be for show.

I want some really serious work out buddies. None of my female friends feel comfortable doing hardcore stuff and working til they collapse in a sweaty, stinking, heap. What's with that?
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Postby madeline » Sat Oct 06, 2007 9:34 pm

Re: the subject of your thread- that's not very nice, and a bit of an insult to most of the girls on the forum who are working hard at the gym. Maybe you should just find exercise friends and shopping friends and not mix the two, you can't expect people to just do what you want them to do.
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Postby vanessa0305 » Sat Oct 06, 2007 9:56 pm

Either you go to the gym to exercise or to socialise not both. Its up to you to decide why you go and what you want to do about it. I go by myself so I can work out hard and concentrate on what I am doing. I too don't like the title of your post.
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Postby electrongirl » Sat Oct 06, 2007 10:09 pm

maybe you should have titled the post "my gym buddies are wusses"
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Postby Bread-Monster » Sun Oct 07, 2007 12:10 pm

madeline wrote:Re: the subject of your thread- that's not very nice, and a bit of an insult to most of the girls on the forum who are working hard at the gym. Maybe you should just find exercise friends and shopping friends and not mix the two, you can't expect people to just do what you want them to do.


Sorry, the title wasn't meant to sound nasty, it was just a little teasing. However, it does seem that there are hardly any girls downstairs doing free weights they're either upstairs doing cardio or on the weights machines, or downstairs using the weight machines.

I'm not bagging girls working hard at the gym, I'm just curious as to why girls hardly use free weights. Think about it, you burn more calories using free weights because you're using your stabilizing muscles. You also work out more minor muscles that machines can't work out and you not only get stronger, but if you were to lift up, say, a small pony over your head (not recommended), you'd have developed the stabilizing muscles in your knees, back and shoulders so you don't wobble around while lifting said pony and causing yourself an injury.

Yeah, I shouldn't have mixed socialising with going to the gym, but it's the only time I get to see my old high school friends so I bite the bullet. I don't expect them to do what I want them to do. I expect them to be girls and stay away from free weights because that's what most girls do.

I also don't really want to go to the gym with hardcore guys because they will spend ALL evening doing free weights and no cardio. One of my male friends insisted that "Cardio is for girls and wimps, dead lifts are for real MEN!". When I asked him "What's the point of being strong if you cant get from point A to point B without collapsing in a pathetic heap?" He replied "PAH! Real men will not go from point A to B, real men will dead lift point B to point A!". Gawds...

I just want a balanced gym buddy who would crank my incline up on the treadmill when they think I'm not working hard enough even though I'm weezing, who will insist on increasing the resistance on the exercise bikes to maximum and racing the last kilometre, and when my face turns beetroot and my lungs are gasping for air, will encourage me to finish the last 100m and cheer me on. A buddy who will spot me when I'm doing free weights and insist that I can do another chin up...and another. A buddy I can lean against as we both wobble out of the gym like two precarious little water balloons. Sure I can go alone, but I can't possibly work that hard because... who will carry me out of the gym? :lol:
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Postby madeline » Sun Oct 07, 2007 12:57 pm

Hun, girls do free weights... are you at the gym 24/7? What about the girls that do weights at a pump class or a circuit class? I think it's more that most girls don't like repetitive gym work... (mooooost hehe) e.g. reps of 50 bench press lifts etc. I know I would prefer to incorporate weights into another class so I can do cardio too... and btw what is wrong with cardio? Even for things like pilates or yoga, the strength poses could be as effective as weights for some women, sometimes core stability is better than bulking up your biceps.
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Postby vanessa0305 » Sun Oct 07, 2007 1:00 pm

I understand what you are saying and the best place to find a gym buddies is at the gym. The one person I do workouts with was someone I met at the gym with a similar fitness level and fitness goals as myself.

As for free weights. If you can't do it properly with excellent technique then you're not working any muscle groups properly. So if you're not 100% sure you're better off on machines. hence why a lot of women stick to them. Another reason may be the macho men using the free weights section putting them off. Some people believe you have to be super fit and muscle bound to use free weights and others believe they will get muscles like Arnie if they do them. There are so many reason people don't do free weights. Best not to judge. That they are in the gym doing exercise should be enough...we get judged so much already. We are not all the same and what works for one person may not suit another. I say just do what you want to do and let others do what they want to.
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Postby electrongirl » Sun Oct 07, 2007 1:08 pm

I agree about the macho men at the gym.

Years ago I used to be a bit of a gym junkie (you'd never guess now!!) and I found out very quickly that it wasn't nice being a woman in the free weights area. The guys would stare or be rude, like get in your way, or take all the benches etc...

But my new gym has a female only area so it makes it much easier... now I just need to actually go there!!
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Postby zeedeveelgirl » Sun Oct 07, 2007 5:04 pm

Girls definitely do do free weights! When I worked at a group PT studio the 1 hour sessions were basically 1/2, sometimes more free weights and the rest cardio, and our client base was 85% girls/women. There are loads of women out there who love a good weights session, myself included :wink:

The girls that don't do them probably are the ones that believe the myth that if they do weights they'll bulk up, or perhaps they might be scared of dropping the weights on themselves (which believe me, happens a fair bit, again this happened sometimes at my old work when my gung-ho boss put someone's weight up too quickly). Some girls just aren't into weights!
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Postby carls » Sun Oct 07, 2007 9:04 pm

I think its going to be very hard to find a gym buddy who has the exact same interests as you.

maybe you should think about going by yourself?
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Postby Chelle » Sun Oct 07, 2007 11:05 pm

Alot of girls do do free weights, it just a lot of girls have never been shown how to use them properly or dont know how to incorperate a whole program into there schedual & perfer to do cardio instead. Or dont like to do weight with men in the gym that's why there is more women's gym's popping up everywhere or a mixed censored gym has a seperate area where women only part.

When I do weight's at the gym I dont care if I'm the only girl in the room it dosent bother me I just there to do what I'm there for that's to tone up & try to lose weight.

I think also that try & go to the gym alone it isnt a socialising place if it interupt's what you want to get out of going there in the first place. If you want a gym buddie for motivation then only have 1 friend not a whole pacK of girls because you probley only get half of a workout then what you would of going by yourself & it is a let down becuase you didnt work hard enough.

Saying that it is great that you have friends that can motivate you to workout but not work out with so many at the same time.
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Postby help6363 » Mon Oct 08, 2007 3:11 am

Bread-Monster wrote:
madeline wrote:Re: the subject of your thread- that's not very nice, and a bit of an insult to most of the girls on the forum who are working hard at the gym. Maybe you should just find exercise friends and shopping friends and not mix the two, you can't expect people to just do what you want them to do.


Sorry, the title wasn't meant to sound nasty, it was just a little teasing. However, it does seem that there are hardly any girls downstairs doing free weights they're either upstairs doing cardio or on the weights machines, or downstairs using the weight machines.

I'm not bagging girls working hard at the gym, I'm just curious as to why girls hardly use free weights. Think about it, you burn more calories using free weights because you're using your stabilizing muscles. You also work out more minor muscles that machines can't work out and you not only get stronger, but if you were to lift up, say, a small pony over your head (not recommended), you'd have developed the stabilizing muscles in your knees, back and shoulders so you don't wobble around while lifting said pony and causing yourself an injury.

Yeah, I shouldn't have mixed socialising with going to the gym, but it's the only time I get to see my old high school friends so I bite the bullet. I don't expect them to do what I want them to do. I expect them to be girls and stay away from free weights because that's what most girls do.

I also don't really want to go to the gym with hardcore guys because they will spend ALL evening doing free weights and no cardio. One of my male friends insisted that "Cardio is for girls and wimps, dead lifts are for real MEN!". When I asked him "What's the point of being strong if you cant get from point A to point B without collapsing in a pathetic heap?" He replied "PAH! Real men will not go from point A to B, real men will dead lift point B to point A!". Gawds...

I just want a balanced gym buddy who would crank my incline up on the treadmill when they think I'm not working hard enough even though I'm weezing, who will insist on increasing the resistance on the exercise bikes to maximum and racing the last kilometre, and when my face turns beetroot and my lungs are gasping for air, will encourage me to finish the last 100m and cheer me on. A buddy who will spot me when I'm doing free weights and insist that I can do another chin up...and another. A buddy I can lean against as we both wobble out of the gym like two precarious little water balloons. Sure I can go alone, but I can't possibly work that hard because... who will carry me out of the gym? :lol:


Wish you lived in Perth, so we could train together! :D

I go to the gym alone..... I like it, I remain focused and work hard. Each to their own...... If I go with friends, I don't work as hard.

Have fun at the gym! :D
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Postby Butterfly_Dawn » Mon Oct 08, 2007 8:44 pm

I don't use gyms, but the only time I've been to a gym was with the bloke and his friends. They spent the whole time competing with each other and being general idiots. Entirely unimpressive. I'd happily do free weights, should I be a gym person, but only if there weren't any show pony boys around, or idiot boys not taking it seriously. But I have an issue with not being perceived as doing something wrong :oops:
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Postby Bread-Monster » Tue Oct 09, 2007 12:40 am

Hmm, the macho man thing, it used to scare me when I first went to the gym. I was on the machines and a group of guys were standing around me glancing at me with disdain. I didn't finished up my reps and left and they jumped on it before I could get the cleaning stuff to wipe down the equipment. I moved onto the free weights and no one would take them from me because they were only 10kg weights.

No, I do not go to the gym 24/7, All I know is, everytime I'm there, 99% of the girls are upstairs doing cardio and using the machines. there was one exception though. This little 5'1 singaporean girl. She impressed me so much I wanted to ask her to be my gym buddy. I saw her do 10 reps of military pull ups. She held herself up there for what seemed like a minute. I think she was doing a few sets before hand because she looked really red and tired. The muscles on her arms were so tight and prominent and she was just...well...sexy. She then went on to do bench presses with weights probably exceeding her own body weight. Fantastic, amazing, strong, hot and awesome were the words that popped into my mind when I saw her. The guys respected her.

I do often go to the gym by myself. I can't really do free weights without a spotter though. I have the tendency to work myself to fatigue (eventhough you're not supposed to but I just don't notice until it happens). I have convinced my boyfriend to join me next year, 3 times a week and I will be using free weights and when I get those long, tone, prominent muscles all over my body, I'll post a photo (will probably never happen).

OH! Btw, I heard Women's Health Magazine is coming out. I can't wait! i've been reading my boyfriend's Men's Health magazines but no longer! finally, a women's magazine I can read without falling asleep or flicking through for the sudoku.
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Postby loveat116 » Tue Oct 09, 2007 9:15 am

Bread-Monster wrote:Hmm, the macho man thing, it used to scare me when I first went to the gym. I was on the machines and a group of guys were standing around me glancing at me with disdain. I didn't finished up my reps and left and they jumped on it before I could get the cleaning stuff to wipe down the equipment. I moved onto the free weights and no one would take them from me because they were only 10kg weights.

No, I do not go to the gym 24/7, All I know is, everytime I'm there, 99% of the girls are upstairs doing cardio and using the machines. there was one exception though. This little 5'1 singaporean girl. She impressed me so much I wanted to ask her to be my gym buddy. I saw her do 10 reps of military pull ups. She held herself up there for what seemed like a minute. I think she was doing a few sets before hand because she looked really red and tired. The muscles on her arms were so tight and prominent and she was just...well...sexy. She then went on to do bench presses with weights probably exceeding her own body weight. Fantastic, amazing, strong, hot and awesome were the words that popped into my mind when I saw her. The guys respected her.

I do often go to the gym by myself. I can't really do free weights without a spotter though. I have the tendency to work myself to fatigue (eventhough you're not supposed to but I just don't notice until it happens). I have convinced my boyfriend to join me next year, 3 times a week and I will be using free weights and when I get those long, tone, prominent muscles all over my body, I'll post a photo (will probably never happen).

OH! Btw, I heard Women's Health Magazine is coming out. I can't wait! i've been reading my boyfriend's Men's Health magazines but no longer! finally, a women's magazine I can read without falling asleep or flicking through for the sudoku.


Womens Health has been out for at least 2 months, ive seen it before. Maybe just not where you live?

I kinda agree with you, i NEVER see women doing weights at my gym, doesnt mean no one does, but I never see them doing it. But I guess some people just prefer to do cardio? And they might not know the benefits of weight training.

I cant go to the gym with my friends, I get too competitive hehe.
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