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chucky wrote:I am REALLY GOING TO HATE MYSELF for saying this, and i am sure you have already been told this but you got to really want it, to be able to do it. This theory has just kicked in with me today and tommorrow might just be a different story but I hope not.
Set some goals, and I dont think you should concentrate to much on food, its important but if your craving something dont starve your body from it because it will make you bindge...
Good luck with it, I really hope you get back on track..... Sorry if I wasn much help
Fireball wrote:Wow. You've got a lot on your plate. It's no wonder it's difficult to focus on weightloss and no wonder you feel a bit depressed. There are a few different issues here.
1. You want your partner to take some turns cooking but he's not pulling his weight. At the end of the day, why should your partner change his behaviour? He's got it made. Either you cook or he has take away (which I assume he enjoys).I dont know how you work out your tasks around the home, i.e. who does what but this is one of the single biggest problems in relationships. Women so often feel their partner wont contribute fairly. If you are serious about sorting this out you may need to go to counselling. The earlier you address this issue the better. I imagine if he has a lazy brother around that wont help as it encourges him to slack off. It would be great if you could get rid of your partners brother he is probably adding a lot of stress to an already busy lifestyle.
2. You say you want to lose weight but your partner's behaviour is not helping. You dont mention your husband's physique. Is your partner sabotaging your efforts to lose weight? Maybe he is afraid you are too good for him or you'll run off with someone else if you get into shape?
I agree with what Chucky said - at the end of the day whether or not your partner helps, You have to want it, You have to set goals and You have to be determined do it. My husband and I both used to smoke. (I smoked 60 a day!) We often tried to quit together and it didnt work because we would sabotage, egging each other on to "break" until one of us would buy smokes. Sort of like your getting the take away. Then I decided to get seriuous. I quit on my own. He kept on smoking. That was 11 years ago and I've never looked back. My husband quit about 4 years after me. So if you really want to do it, Do It. Don't feel like a victim because your partner is not giving you the support you would like. Be a winner.Do it because You deserve it.
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