Hey Chucky. How's it going?
I know what you mean about your DH eating in front of you. The other day at the movies my husband was buying Twisties. We had been out to dinner and I was excellent. But when he bought the Twisites i wanted them. I asked can we share? (When he has treats and I am dieting I only have a small number usually up to 5 pieces.) He said no.
I was fuming because then I had to choose
whether to buy some or not. Well I deceided to buy a slushy and chup-a-chup. I enjoyed myself and still lost weight. I thought about it. He is not supportive and I know it. I decided I will not be a victim.
If I am serious about wieghtloss I have to learn to deal with situtions. I apologised to my husband for being annoyed. I said I am angry at me because I want to lose weight but have little self control. It frustrtaes me that I have to deal with this but then I remind myself, this is because of all the times I
ate too much. This has nothing to do with him. A lot of the time he wasnt even around when I was eating all those extra kJ. I want to eat everything and I feel I'm missing out. So I separate my behaviour from his.
This is how I quit smoking while he still smoked. We had already stopped smoking inside because we had little kids and stale smoke stinks. When we bought a newer car we agreed to not smoke in it because our last one smelt so foul. This had taught me that you cant have a smoke all the time whenever you want. It also meant that our living environment wasnt full, of smoke. One day, I decided - I will quit.
I made an appointment and went to the doctor, not for any help but to formalise my goal. I didnt tell my husband in advance. I decided to avoid being around smokers for a while while I got used to it. I bought nicotine patches - the strongest ones and put them on each morning Week 1.Week 2 I bought the same patches but cut them in half and used them. (cheaper than buying lower strength patches). When they ran out I bought another packet of full strength patches and cut them in quarters. This saved me a lot of money. And by the end of packet 3 I did not want any more. I decided I was now a non-smoker and would not return to smoking. It was a determined decision. I had tried before but I didn't want to keep going through this and being a failure. I also know that it is one of the worst health risk factors. Everyone is different so you need to look at what you think will work for you. If I was going to quit these days I would ring the Quit line and see what help they offer...