I wanted to pose a question to the blokes, because I have a bit of knowledge of dieting and weight loss, but its all from my wifes perspective, or from tv shows, which are mainly aimed around weight loss for women. Its difficult to get information about how guys lose weight and what are some of the pitfalls that you guys have come across that are specific to our gender?
The kind of specifics that i'm wondering about is, what are the general trends around males losing weight, do we lose lots of weight to begin with and then taper off? Do we lose weight by sticking to the same diet every week, or do we need to change our diet? These sorts of things. Also, with exercises, i'm not keen on losing all muscles, I want to shape some of my muscles, how do I go about that without going to the gym? I've started on doing crunches, push ups, bicycle kicks and other exercises I'm looking at doing are all about converting my upper body into muscles. I don't want a six pack, but i do want a flat stomach and a nice set of guns

Any help is appreciated

thanks,
AnonGuy9999