With my former partner, we got tested together. We used condoms until that point and then after the tests came back all clear, whoo hoo! It was just a given that that's what we'd do. He was the one to bring up the testing thing as his ex girlfriend's brother had HIV which made it quite real to him whereas I was pretty much living in lala land. I was thinking about it but unsure of how to broach it but when he did, it was like 'phew!'
With my next partner - he was tested before we slept together. I didn't feel the need as I was in a monogomous relationship for 5+ years (the guy I got tested with - no one in between).
Before we were married, my husband and I both got tested when we moved to China together (a full on medical was part of the visa process where they did ECGs, ultra sounds, blood testing).
I've since been tested several times (when I picked up a tropical disease Typhus and they had trouble diagnosing it, they tested me for EVERYthing - twice!).
So yeah, make it a 'together' thing. I prefer censored without condoms and I'm sure most men do, too - so it's a 'treat' once the testing is done and out the way... though the thing is, you should get tested again or wait at least 3 months after the last time either of you had unprotected censored because it can take some time for the virus to show up in blood tests.
My husband recently had a needlestick injury at work
so we have to wait another 2 months for his next test
But he works with the elderly and chances of him contracting anything nasty from this patient are about one in a billion! Still, we have to be safe
I gave blood once back in my early twenties as I knew they'd do the screening - so perhaps your friend can get her guy to swing by the blood bank with her on a pseudo date
Just keep moving! And don't be lazy...
SW: 74.3kg - 1/1/09
CW: 71.1kg - 3/5/09