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My journey over the past 2 years

Postby mumnbub » Sun Nov 30, 2008 12:30 pm

Just over 2 years ago I found out I was pregnant and was so excited by this. My partner left when I was 3 months pregnant but I did not let this dampen my excitment as this was the baby I had always dreamed of. I had a perfect pregnancy in every way- no morning sickness at all, no complications, completly healthy which is why I was able to work up until my due date when everyone told me to stop work (i could have kept going). Even in the last days of work I had people completly surprised by the fact that I was not only pregnant but due! I was overweight but not from being pregnant, by the time I went into labour I weighed 1kg more than when I started.
I was induced a week after my due date and from the point of active labour and birth it was 5 hours. I had a natural birth with only gas to help me through it. Bub was healthy and a good size at 3180g. I had a 2nd degree tear but they said that was it so I though to myself 'How lucky am I? had great pregnancy and a dream birth'
I was discharged from hospital 48 hours after givng birth and felt great- I was a new mum and could not wait to get home and raise my little boy. But things were thrown into caos the following morning when I went to the toilet and moved my bowls for the first time since giving birth. Things did not go exactly to plan (wont elaberate any more than that) so I headed back to hospital and checked out. I was told I had a tear further up the birth canal between the front and back passages so would need surgery. The following day I was wheeled half out the door when they stopped me and discussed it further. The doctor had spoken to a specialist and decided it was too risky doing the surgery at this stage and would be better giving me an illiostomy. It was explained to me and I broke down- this was not meant to happen to me.
So for the next week I remained in hospital while my mother was at home looking after my newborn baby boy. That was my job and i was missng out.

Anyway, I was eventually able to go home and attempt to cope with looking after a baby on my own as well as managing my illiostomy which believe me is not an easy task, was at the hospital almost daily with problems.

I was not able to go back to work at 6 weeks as planned so i had to quit my job, as a result i had to move as i could not afford the rent. I moved to the other side of town into a family members home.

4 months later i had the surgery to repair the hole- if anyone has had surgery 'down there' they would know this is not an easy thing to go through. But after another week away from my son I was home. In that week he had learnt to sit up unaided- I felt like i was missing out. For the next 5 months I was constantly having problems with recovery and they would not reverse the illiostomy until i was completly recovered.

In February this year (2008) I was finally healed and able to start thinking of the next surgery. I also decided it was timeto do something about my weight. I was 98kg and longed to me a yummy mummy. Despite the illiostomy I started my weight loss journey, it was hard to be motivated when no matter how much i lost i still hated the way my body looked.

In September I finally had the surgery to reverse the illiostomy, I had lost about 13kg by that stage and was now finally able to start liking my body.

2.5 months after the surgery I have lost another 2kg and have recovered from the final operation. I look in the mirror and know that I will never have a perfect body- have large scars and also stretch marks from the pregnancy. But despite that I feel more confidant and know that one day soon I will have a better looking stomach, the scars will fade in time, i will lose the weight and firm it up so it wont look to bad.

Maybe once I have reached my goal I can start thinking about dating- although the thought of a relationship still scares me (am sure you can appreciate why)

With 12kg to go until i reach my goal I am more motivated than ever to get there. I have travelled a bumpy road in the last 16months since the birth of my son but have come out better than when i went into it.

No matter what your challange is you can still reach your goal, you just might have to work harder, plan things differently or take things slower. Its taken me about 9 months to lose 15kg but considering i have been close to 100kg for a number of years its not that bad- dont care how long it takes me.

I belive support is the best way to achieve your goals. without it i would still be 98kg and feeling sorry for myself.
Start weight: 98kg April 2008
22/12/08- 80.7kg
29/12/08- 81.8kg
04/01/09- 81.6kg
12/01/09- 81kg
19/01/09- 80kg
09/02/09- 79.3kg
Next goal 75kg

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Re: My journey over the past 2 years

Postby EvilWombatQueen » Sun Nov 30, 2008 6:44 pm

I'm sorry for the ordeal you went through. It sounds awful. The fact that you've managed to lose weight and get healthier while all of this was going on is testament to your determination. Good on you! With that sort of spirit I'm sure you'll get to goal quicker than you know.

Good luck with the last 12 kilograms! :D
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Re: My journey over the past 2 years

Postby Ambryi » Mon Dec 22, 2008 4:23 pm

Body image is one of those things - I think back to a few years ago, to when I was a slim 60kgs - yes, I felt better about my body then, then I did at almost 80kg - but I never looked in the mirror and thought "god damn my body looks good!!". It was always "I wish my legs were longer!" or "I wish my arse didn't jiggle" etc :x And I think now, that if I could reach that weight again I'd run around in my bikini and feel spectacular hehe. But you know, I probably would just focus on those 'bits' again :P

Anyway, I very much enjoyed reading your story, kudos on bringing up a kid alone and dealing with all the medical stuff. I can imagine it would be hard to feel attractive/sexual when your dealing with a new bubba as well as having a ileostomy. You've come a long way but, and I'm sure that it will all come back now 8)

Congratulations on the weightloss so far, especially under tough conditions :) and good luck with the rest of it

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Re: My journey over the past 2 years

Postby Alexandra » Thu Jan 01, 2009 7:53 am

Thanks for sharing your story and also good for you for having the courage to do so. What a spectactular effort to lose your weight, well done! I can't imagine how difficult it must have been for you with all your health problems, a relationship breakdown and a new bub - but what a triumph!

Continue to focus on yourself and your little man and look after yourself! Best wishes for a fantastic 2009, Alexandra

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Re: My journey over the past 2 years

Postby JP1 » Mon Jan 26, 2009 7:26 pm

sorry to hear of your grief Alexandra.. happy to hear you are copeing and getting on with life and best of luck with the rest of your weight loss journey..
Highs : 107 Kg (24 Sept 2007) : 113.5 Kg (12 Jan 2014) : 107 Kg (3 May 2019)
Current :105 Kg (17 May 2019)
Lows : 78.4 Kg (20 May 2008) : 87.4 Kg (on 16 Dec in both 2009 & 2010) : 82.9 Kg (14 Apr 2011) : 87.1 Kg (4 Jul 2011) : 90.5 Kg (14 Jul 2014) : 99.2 Kg (31 May 2016) : 104.7 Kg (10 May 2019)
Target : 90 Kg by 9 Aug 2019
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Re: My journey over the past 2 years

Postby tosti26 » Fri Feb 13, 2009 5:45 pm

EvilWombatQueen wrote:I'm sorry for the ordeal you went through. It sounds awful. The fact that you've managed to lose weight and get healthier while all of this was going on is testament to your determination. Good on you! With that sort of spirit I'm sure you'll get to goal quicker than you know.

Good luck with the last 12 kilograms! :D

I agree, you are really showing great determination witch is a key fact when you want to loose weight. Big Congrats! :D
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Re: My journey over the past 2 years

Postby kristal » Tue Mar 10, 2009 10:14 am

You sound like an extremely strong woman and are an inspiration! Congrats on your feats so far.
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Weight Loss so Far = 6kgs
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Re: My journey over the past 2 years

Postby Lucid87 » Sun Aug 16, 2009 9:17 pm

You should be so proud of yourself
congratulations and i'm sorry for your problems

*big hugs*

p.s. this is my first post :P
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