Rachel wants to make people

[oostevens]

Hey ladies!

Thought I would start a topic for anyone trying to conceive.

I am 23 this yr and hubby is 28. We have been married 2yrs this April, and have decided to start a family.

We begin that journey this week How exciting. I am off the pill now too.

We have been looking at the price of baby stuff in the shops and are going to start buying things soon so we have a heap when i find out i am preg and when baby is born.

Any tips on getting stuff? and what stuff you need?

Anyone else trying to conceive (tcc)?

[Chelle]

Hey Rachael how exciting if you want to start a family soon I would suggest to you can work out your ovolation dates there are plenty on the web if you google ovolation calander. There are so many dates in a month that you can fall pregnant so do you reasearch & good luck. Also just because you have been on a pill for a long time dosent always mean that it will take a while before you actually fall pregnant, some people can actually fall pregnant straight away so be pre-pared for that.

With buying baby stuff I would wait to see if you can concieve one first instead of buying a whole heap of baby things why dont you put money aside for it so when you do fall pregnant you have the money to buy all the things that you need.

As for buying there is alot that you need like cot, pram, car seat, baby bath, wipes, nappies, blankets, clothes, rockers, nappie bag, high chair ect... if you want more of an idea you can go on parenting web sites they can have a list of what to get when your expecting. Also you might have friend that dont need there stuff anymore so that might come in handy also Ebay & other internet sites can get you a great bargain so dont just buy the 1st thing in a baby department that you see, shop around you could save your self some money..

Good luck

[chubba momma]

OHH congrats on starting the TTC process Hoe exciting for you! I look forward to your news.

My advice on what to get.. wait till the sales definaltey for big purchase items (cots etc), Toys r us are gernerally fantastic ofr bargains. I used a porta cot till we got teh baby bonus then we went and brought a great cot that converts to a toddler bed. (on a great sale too LOL)

[hotmumma]

Congrats on TTC! We were going to start TTC this year but i've put it on hold for a while, at least another year. I really want to loose more weight first, but i have 2 munchikins already.
I see your in burpengary, i'm in Narangba! Small world...
Personally i held off buying any baby stuff until i knew the censored as i like to get all pink or blue. My mum did have a cot ready for us though before we were pregnant.
Other tip, don't go overboard. We didn't "need" alot of what we had. Like we bought a bassinette, but 1st daughter used it 12 weeks, 2nd daughter used it 6. We should have just stuck them straight into the cot. They also had far too many clothes. I also stocked up on powders/lotions/bath soaps/shampoos and 3 yrs later i still have alot of them! Both girls had/have eczema so couldn't be used.
I'd just start putting money away so you can buy stuff as you need it.
Best of luck TTC!

[Mandie]

Congrats

My advice to add to the others is - don't forget to have a baby shower! My boyfriends sister has just had her baby shower and you shoulda seen the haul of stuff she got!

[oostevens]

HA HA HA yeah we gunna have one :p

atm just looking at cots, prams, high chairs and the prices of nappies :p might start stocking them up hehe

[***absolute_zero***]

Congratulations on TTC Rachel!

I have 4 little ones, my advice is that babies don't need alot. Its best to get the bare essentials and then once bub is born buy anything else that you *might* need. People pass on stuff from when their kids were babies use it LOL you can spend so much on baby stuff and they only need it or fit into it for such a small amount of time it can be an utter waste of money all of my kids had clothes they didn't use, toys they didn't like etc etc. Just keep it simple and it will be ok!

Best wishes

[Fiona25]

We've been TTC since the start of November 2006

We have an appointment with a fertility specialist in less that 2 weeks though. With our problem, and according to the GP we'll be doing IVF - great...NOT So long as it results in a baby I don't care what we have to go threw though.

Best of luck on your TTC journey and I hope it is a very short one for you guys

[Nikerz82]

oH its so exciting making babies and planning new families. Babies do and dont need alot of things ..clothes they dont need alot of, because they grow out of size every month or so, I have sooo many outfits from my twins with tags on I could open my own store. I went crazy buying a whole heap of stuff, mod cons ect and few things I never used and then some were so invaluable id almost trade my life for them.

My babies never used those play gym things ( the mat with the mobile over the top, they lie there play ect) all my kids never used them.
My big propper pram I used about 6 times, yet I use my stroller to death.
Baby carriers - where you wear the baby, mine are brand new, used them twice, carrying them off the plane after they were born and one time when we were walkinga round a croc feeding park.

Two things I couldnt live without was a Jolly Jumper! and a motorised swing. My babies spent a few nights asleep in them things. somethings its all that would work to get the little rats off to la la land. baby feeding pillows ( babylove zoo pillows) absolutly brilliant for bottle or breast feeding and also later on when they are learning to sit.

Walkers my babies never use inside because they prefer to crawl, but we use ours all the time as seating in our boat.
I could go on forever, I would suggest what I did was every week on the shopping bill buying something and start a collection of bathtime lotions, powder, dummies, bibs, shampoo, nappy rash cream, ect you will go through an abundance of nappies, and bumwipes so start stocking them aswell.

Huggies are the best nappies, hands down, nothing else compares. so if you go disposable. thats what you want.

Fiona, I know first hand how hard, frustrating and emotionally draining making a baby can be, especially when your challenged and require fertility help. But there is light at the end of the tunnel and while your going through the process you think nothing could be harder and beleive me it can feel like the longest month you've lived but dont give up, never loose sight of what your trying to acheive thats very important.

If you need to talk about the process from someone whos been there and done it, im always around.

To any Perth couples who are looking at TTC and needing help I cannot reccomend Rodger Perkins and Dr Turner from Hollywood Fertility center enough, they are the reason for all 3 of my children, they are so good they gave me double what I asked for and I had twins!

[oostevens]

aww thanks for that

i got a little bit freaked out the other night, our friends were talking about when they had their son, and she is now preg with their 2nd. And i got a bit freaked out about the whole 'giving birth' bit.

How will i know if i need an epidural? what if i cant handle the pain, what if i can, i would prefer to do the pushing myself, but what if its so much pain i can not deal with it, but i am a woman, and i could never talk about how painful childbirth is unless i gave birth without the epi, i wouldnt feel like a full woman if i had it, but what if i need it, maybe less pain is better.....i have no idea ha ha

so yeah :s i aint even preg yet so i shouldnt be thinking about all that.....but it scares me a bit...cos i have nothing to compare the pain to.

[Mummyof3]

it can be scary when you listen to other experiences, but overall the experience is awsome, and in saying that, once you see your babe in your arms, I guarantee you will go through labour all over again, just for that little joy you hold in your arms...

so how would you know if you need epidural? well if you feel to overwhelmed with all the pain, you can ask for the epidural, but if I'm right it can only be given in the 1st or maybe 2nd stage of labour.......also feeling if you are a real woman or not because of the epidural, will not even cross your mind when you in labour, to me it has nothing to do with being a real woman or what not, no matter what pain relief, giving birth is hard full stop..simply if you cant handle the pain, you need to do what you need to do. I had epidural with my oldest boy, and just had gas with my other 2, I loved the gas, it worked well for me...

Giving birth isn't easy, and you are right!!!nothing compares to the pain, I'm hoping you will conceive very soon Good luck,

[Chelle]

HAHAHA I can believe rachael that you are already thinking about having an epidural when you havent concieve a baby yet!!! It can be scarey but when you are in birth your body takes controll & when you have delivered the little baby the pain is all forgotten when you have your little mirical in your arms. Like MO3 said you know at the time if you cant handel the pain anymore, then you can look at the options of what is best to suit you at the time it dosent mean that you aren't a women if you take that choice of relief. There are heaps of different methods of pain relief that can be offered to you. You just got to make the decision in your birth plan of what suits you.

With my 2 boys I never had an epidural the 1st one Josh I had gas & pethadine & with my second child my big boy Braydon I wasnt aloud any drugs at all only gas the labour was too quick. Which I never really had any way. When I give birth to this little one in June / July I wont be opting for an epidural there is no way I would even concider having it. But that's my choice. Only because i have slight back problem at the moment & if the antheist put the needle in the wrong spot it can really do some damage to my spin I have a few friend that after having an epidural they have really back back pain since.

[kate_turner2000]

i agree wtih richelle, you are thinking about the pain side of it and you havent even conceived yet. once and IF you conceive you will have 9 months (or 10 months like i did) of thinking of the pain.

id suggest joining a pregnancy or TTC forum where you can find out what your options are for birth and labour. i joined one and then went on to become a moderator of a pregnancy birth and beyond forum for 2 years which helped me a lot. as well as doing lots of reading of magazines and books. my sister is also a midwife so i knew what would be best for me through her guidence and that of the other midwives she knew.

also my sister brought a lot of stuff when she fell pregnant for the baby and she miscarried and had all the baby stuff there reminding her of the baby she was supposed to have. id suggest waiting til your second or even early third trimester before buying anything.

remember that there are women on the forums (here on this forum and also pregnancy forums) who cannot for some reason fall pregnant on their own. (i was one of them) so its good to be sensitive to the fact that conceiving doesnt happen straight away for some people.

[KarinAnn]

remember that there are women on the forums (here on this forum and also pregnancy forums) who cannot for some reason fall pregnant on their own. (i was one of them) so its good to be sensitive to the fact that conceiving doesnt happen straight away for some people.

I agree with Kate on this! Being one of the people who can't and would love to!

For me it's IVF or nothing. Wish it could be as easy as going and buying everything and then worrying about the pregnancy

It's great that your TTC but for a lot of woman on here it is hard!

I know a lot of woman who have been told to lose weight before trying.. This being why some are here.

[oostevens]

i know that there are many who cant even fall preg, i actually know two couples IRL.

I was just doing some thinking, thats all, as a friend of mine is preg for the 2nd time and was telling us all about giving birth.

I don't believe i said anything wrong or anything that would have hurt someone who has been having trouble conceiving, i was only talking about 'my' experiences and questions.

I don't even know if I can have a kid yet, I spose no one does until they try. For many reasons (some of which are personal) i would love to fall preg fairly fast, but i know that i can take a long time. And if i am still trying in about 12months I shall go and see a doctor.

Thanks for all the advice guys

We haven't bought anything yet, we just wanted to know about prices and things to buy so we can start 'saving' for that kind of thing, i am trying to work out our budget for the next yr or so so yeah.

I have also tried a heap of preg forums, but i dont have a lot of time these days, as i struggle to even get on here ha ha and i know it would take a while till i understood how those forums worked and read all the stuff, which i am sure is very helpful.

When I am pregnant I shall get magazines and talk to people i know etc and i read websites when i get a chance.

at the moment we are just cruising along, not thinking too much about trying and all that, we are just enjoying the moment

sorry if my questions seemed dumb or watnot but i was just being inquisitive.

thanks again